Guante – “Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man Up'”

TEN RESPONSES TO THE PHRASE “MAN UP” 1. Fuck you. 2. If you want to question my masculinity,
like a schoolyard circle of curses, like a swordfight with lightsaber erections, save
your breath. Because contrary to what you may believe, not every problem can be solved
by “growing a pair.” You cannot arm-wrestle your way out of chemical depression. The CEO
of the company that just laid you off does not care how much you bench. And I promise,
there is no lite beer in the universe full-bodied enough to make you love yourself. 3. “Man up?” Oh that’s that new superhero,
right? Mild-mannered supplement salesman Mark Manstrong says the magic words “MAN UP,” and
then transforms into THE FIVE O’CLOCK SHADOW, the massively-muscled, deep-voiced, leather-duster-wearing
super-man who defends the world from, I don’t know, feelings. 4. Of course. Why fight to remove our chains,
when we can simply compare their lengths? Why step outside the box when the box has
these badass flame decals on it? We men are cigarettes: dangerous, and …poisonous, and
stupid. 5. You ever notice how nobody ever says “woman
up?” They just imply it. Because women, and the women’s movement, figured out a long time
ago that being explicitly ordered around by commercials, magazines and music is dehumanizing.
When will men figure that out? 6. The phrase “Man Up” suggests that competence
and perseverance are uniquely masculine traits. That women—not to mention any man who doesn’t
eat steak, drive a big pickup truck and have lots of sex with women—are nothing more
than background characters, comic relief, props. More than anything, though, it suggests
that to be yourself—whether you wear skinny jeans, rock a little eyeliner, drink some
other brand of light beer, or write poetry—will cost you. 7. How many boys have to kill themselves before
this country acknowledges the problem? How many women have to be assaulted? How many
trans people have to be murdered? We teach boys how to wear the skin of a man, but we
also teach them how to raise that skin like a flag and draw blood for it. 8. Boy babies get blue socks. Girl babies
get pink socks. What about purple? What about green? What about orange, yellow, chartreuse,
cerulean, black, tie-dyed, buffalo plaid, rainbow… 9. I want to be free, to express myself. Man
up. I want to have meaningful, emotional relationships with my brothers. Man up. I want to be weak
sometimes. Man up. I want to be strong in a way that isn’t about physical power or dominance.
Man up. I want to talk to my son about something other than sports. Man up. I want to be, who I am. Man up. 10. No.

100 thoughts on “Guante – “Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man Up'”

  1. I have a lot for this guy. It reminded of the relationship I have with my older brother. We never really talked anything other then girls, sex and clothes.

  2. I just tonight viewed this for the first time. Outstanding! I clicked Love on it and shared it on my Facebook wall. I'm also bookmarking this video here on Youtube. You SO covered it. Beautiful, beautiful response(s).

  3. I honestly think that if you know how to deal with comments, you can act however "non-manly" you like to.Generally, if people see their comments don't phase you, they won't keep making them.

  4. BEAUTIFUL!!!! I personally cannot stand the term "Man Up" and all that it implies! I love this poem!!!

  5. I love this guy and all his poems. I can't even pick my favorite out of the 10 responses… real

  6. Yes, bring it Brother! This is the "Man Up" that is spreading and will change the world. We need this now more than ever!

  7. this gives me shivers everytime i hear it and that doesn't happen often. thank you.

  8. dont think there is anything wrong with the phrase "man-up" maybe the message got twisted but at its essence i think it stands for stepping up, being your best, doing what you have to do without whingeing.

  9. Guante, thank you for being amazing. your poetry resonates deeply with so many people hoping to bring positive social change to our world. I agree; some of the most admiral traits in a man are intellectual and/or artistic creativity, bold self-expression, and emotional sensitivity. I'm planning to read "Man Up" to my high school peers at an all-school assembly soon.

  10. I keep coming back to this. this is so important. thank you for putting this out there 💜

  11. Brilliant! As a side note: In Victorian culture pink was for boys and blue for girls. Why? Because pink was considered the stronger color.

  12. When will we all realize that there are gender roles built in to all of us! Don't ignore them! Embrace them! They don't make any one gender superior to the other, they make us unique! There are some things that women naturally do better than men and there are some things that men naturally do better than women. It was God's way of ensuring that men and women would unite together because while they may be different, they certainly compliment each other.

  13. a very good poem, with a solid performance, and, dare i say it…pretty damn manly? 😀
    I'm gonna check out your other stuff because if it's even half as good as this one was, I'm going to enjoy it

  14. this video is awsome. your words are brave, smart and inspiring. rock (a little eye-liner) on !

  15. This is proof that sexism hurts everyone. When we put people into boxes and tell them what they should and shouldn't be based on their gender, it not only limits the success of women, but it teaches men that they're not entitled to how they're feeling. They're never allowed to show their humanity because it suddenly becomes "weakness".

  16. If you're complaining about this video, then you're probably part of the problem. There's nothing wrong with men having feelings. There's nothing wrong with men being straight up feminine or gay. It's who they are… everyone says "Be yourself" but then when you actually are yourself they look down on you and treat you differently so matter what you do it seems like you can't win. It feels like your stuck. But your not… you should be proud of who you are and anyone else who has an issue with it needs to look into themselves more and not so much into other people. Maybe then, they can come to a realization of who they really are and stop acting in the play we call society

  17. One thing I remember is when I first started writing poetry is my dad (who is a very literate and usually accepting person) saying "don't call it poetry, call it lyrics," because poetry is supposedly a feminine thing and it would be so embarrassing for his son to show any feminine traits in front of his friends. This poem hits hard, it reminds of every time my uncles insinuated I was gay just because I was fucking every girl I met, of every sideways glance I got when talking about emotions and of the guilt and embarrassment I felt while crying over the death of my grandfather and best friend. If you think feminism is only beneficial to women or that men aren't also forced into gender roles you are fucking wrong.

  18. i hate it when i hear parents say this phrase to their sons without knowing how toxic this fucking phrase is

  19. in saw woman up whenever a female friend of mine complains about something petty … #feminism I guess

  20. That was awesome. It went from somewhat comical to deep in like .000003 seconds. BRAVO!

  21. I also say to people that say "Man up!" to me when I'm sad that you can't solve all problems by just growing up.

  22. When people tell you to man up its because your problems are simply that, your problems and they are tired of hearing your bitching

  23. This was the most amazing thing I've heard in a while. Props to you dude!! Woww

  24. The depth of this poem is so powerful and the 7th point needs to be plastered on every surface of our lives

  25. I swear I feel this. Growing up I was never really a guy for cars, sports etc. I was enticed by other things. I'd be called a crybaby for the simplest of things and now, I don't even cry at funerals…

  26. "What about purple?" I'm non-binary, and honestly purple has always been one of my favorite colors.

  27. "Here's an idea, grow a pair of fuckin' balls and man the fuck up already."

    That was the angry reply that was posted in response to various postings about the plight of men in today's society.

    I would estimate a 98% chance that this angry response was from a woman. Why? Because shaming tactics are one of the most common ways that women keep men in line with their female agenda. (Shame, blame, and calling names.) Standard operating procedure. That's about all they usually have to say.

    Grow a pair… That means "you men continue to play the traditional male role while we women become liberated, pick and choose what rights and responsibilities we have as it suits us, and continue to utilize you as a dog with a paycheck. Continue all the traditional male duties and responsibilities, but relinquish all of the traditional male privileges." But to me, growing a pair means taking full responsibility for my own life, not living under the yoke of domestic and social servitude, and becoming liberated myself. That's what takes "a pair" and not continuing to live the way women tell you to live, a neutered shell of a man. Being liberated takes balls. Big ones. Try it and find out for yourself. Society frowns on anything that doesn't benefit society, and doesn't give a damn about you personally.

    Man the fuck up already… That means "continue to protect and provide for your woman and kids. Shut the fuck up and don't complain when you find yourself living in HER home, nervously watching everything you do or say so she doesn't turn around and divorce you, taking your house, money, kids, sanity, health, and reputation." (With the eager assistance of the cops, the courts, the counselors, and society in general.) Man up means being relegated to the garage, like a dog. Man up means putting up with her constant demands, negativity, ridicule, abuse, and manipulation, all because she has a pussy and you have a cock. All because "that's what a real man does." And when she physically assaults you, you get arrested. And when she says you raped her, you get arrested. And if she cuts your penis off in your sleep (Lorena Bobbit style) she doesn't go to jail because she says you "abused" her.

    Facts… Men die at a significantly younger age than women, lead women in the top 10 causes of disease, homelessness, drug and alcohol addiction, incarceration, mental illness, and are 400% more likely to be murdered and 500% more likely to commit suicide.

    For you to accuse a man of "whining" by pointing out to other men that this is a completely unsatisfactory state of affairs, that they need to drop out of this soul-sucking scam and go their own way (MGTOW, Men Going Their Own Way) is either ignorant or maliciously manipulative. You are saying that pointing out the facts is whining, because it doesn't agree with the female agenda.

    This is the time for men to be liberated. Our time to self actualize, Our time to celebrate manhood. This is Our Century. The Century of MGTOW. And it's only beginning. The tsunami of social change that is coming will be part of history. Huge. Wonderful.


    An ordinary guy with big swinging balls who is unafraid to speak out and help other guys to wake up.

  28. "You can’t arm-wrestle your way out of chemical depression.
    The CEO of the company that just laid you off does not care how much you bench.
    And I promise, there is no lite beer in the universe
    full-bodied enough to make you love yourself."

    I had to press pause, start clapping and literally yell:
    "OMG [email protected]*KING THANK YOU YES!! Y E S !!
    Excuse me, can we show this in EVERY SCHOOL and maybe even at work, cause yall children, teenagers and all grown-ass men and women and everyone in between and beyond has to hear this!!!
    Ok, continue love, if a meteor hits me before I can listen to the whole thing I'll come back and haunt the next person to click on this!"
    presses play

  29. "Why fight to remove our chains when we can simply compare their lengths?"

    This is so deep

  30. 'Why fight to remove our chains when we can simply compare the lengths' Need i say more?

  31. can we talk about the fact my mum dressed me in green and blue

    i'm a girl

  32. I love how he subtly addressed the restricting gender binary all through the color of socks 💜

  33. And here's why the culture is going to shit. Too many men with vaginas.

  34. I love this.
    Number one: Fuck you
    Number ten: No
    And everything in between was just absolutely fucking golden

  35. Thank you for your words….
    #11? Please insert the letters “H” & “U” before the “M.” Before you come in swinging your big boy lexicon. And it might be a good idea to drop the “A” & “N” if you’re feeling like the authority on manhood, you know, just hum a few bars instead of filling the silence with your absolute truth. If your song is true, we’ll hear it. And if it inspires or breaks some new ground or simply just breaks it down into me and you and then no “me” and no “you,” then strike the “P” and insert “S.”

  36. Yup. I know who are forever telling folks man up and calling them punks, etc.

  37. Beta male college kid with a deep voice that would talk soyboy crap and could never 'man up' to defend his country while talking crap about the MEN that do. Millennial smh

  38. I want to have meaningful emotional relationships with my brothers. I will never tire of this video.

  39. I just wanted to say to you, Guante, that you have been an inspiration to me for years. I listen to your poetry and music on a weekly basis for years now. This poem, in particular, relates to me and has helped and kept me going in a world that doesn't understand me. My father is one of these manly men, and I thought for the first 21 years of my life that that is what I had to be. But fuck that. Thank you, you change the world, you're a voice that combats the darkness. Thanks dude. I wish I could repay yah. Tears

  40. This is the best response to a serious issue i have ever watched and I wish they showed this at school

  41. The one and only time anyone has said this to my sons, my oldest son was seven and my brother in law got an earful. Where is there to "man up" to when you are seven? What man knew anything about real manhood at the age of seven? Be gone with the nonsense. He's never said it to my kids again and he'd get another lashing if he ever did. Pretending men aren't humans with human experience and feelings is literally killing them! I will never not love this poem.

  42. Fuck, now my eyeliner is running.
    (p.s. not "guyliner" because it doesn't need a new name just cause I have a dick)

  43. 264 feminists disliked this. They hate it when men try to escape the manliness cage.

  44. Which ever way you swing politically this needs to be shared far and wide, although sadly many will ignore the message and still tow the "man up" line as a solution to mental illness.

  45. Regarding the boy babies in blue, girl babies in pink thing. Did you know that originally boy babies were given pink and girl babies were given blue? At one time pink was considered a masculine colour, it's only through social conditioning that pink has become something seen as feminine.

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