How to Get a NARCISSIST to LEAVE You ALONE! | Learn how to Free yourself from them!

Hey guys, welcome back thanks for joining me this week for another video. So this video was very highly requested I’ve been getting a ton of requests on this So you guys must really be struggling with narcissus in some way or just maybe difficult or toxic people? but so for this video I wanted to talk about how to kind of rid yourself of a narcissus so if you’ve had to interact with this person for a long period of time Chances are you’re exhausted you’re emotionally drained You know mentally exhausted from this person and you just want them to go away And so you tend to constantly say will this person just leave me alone? Will this person just go away? Like I just want to be free from this person like go live your life and don’t bother me But perhaps maybe this person is someone that you actually can’t Physically get rid of out of your life so maybe this is someone that you have to co-parent with maybe this is someone that at least for the time being that you work with or maybe this is a Relative where you really can’t stop seeing them you’re gonna see them from time to time What do we actually do to get rid of this person? Emotionally mentally when we can’t get rid of them physically So the first thing is you have to find your power and this sounds a little you know motivational self empowering but finding your power means you becoming a different version of yourself a better version a healthier version of yourself in order to really Rid yourself of this person. You have to find your strength. You have to find your confidence You have to find yourself worth yourself Valley. You have to learn how to love yourself and By doing all of that you’re learning how to set boundaries. You’re learning how to communicate You’re learning how to respond versus react You’re learning how to create that bubble when you do those things when you get to the place where you really love yourself where you’ve created that bubble where you learn how To communicate with others where you learn how to respond versus react where you don’t get entangled emotionally in someone’s drama or negativity or Them pushing your buttons just to get supply from you even though it’s negative supply You don’t get entangled in those messes anymore When you get to that place, you’re cutting the emotional cord that is tied between you and this person so if you can’t if you are not able to do that work on yourself and raise your vibration to Leave where you’re at right now You’re you’re at that narcissist level you’re at that person’s level because you engage with them you allow their behavior to affect you You react versus respond You haven’t learned how to protect yourself You know create that bubble from all of the abuse that they give you and believe me when I say this is no easy task the stuff that this person throws at you is hurtful, it’s Abusive and it’s it’s a practice learning how to just be a wall against abuse it really is and there are gonna be days where it Defeats you and there are other days where you’ll be able to rise up above it But working on yourself means I’m no longer at your level I’m rising up and either That person is gonna meet you which a narcissist probably will not because they’re not capable But anyone in your life they’re either gonna rise up to meet you where you’re at or they’re gonna fall off and A narcissus is just going to fall off because you’re going to continue to rise up and you’re not going to be a source of supply for them any longer because you definitely don’t give them good supply and you’re not gonna even give Them negative supply. So as I rise up what’s happening is my energy is shifting My energy is changing my God My vibration is rising and what that means is the tricks and the abuse that this person used to give me they don’t work anymore and when they stop working The abuse eventually will go away because again that Narcissist is not able to get anything from you And that’s the only way to get a bully to leave you alone to get a narcissist to leave you alone is when you are Basically this plant to them I’m getting nothing from you So that’s exact what you want from the narcissist, but in order to get to that place where you can get rid of them so to speak emotionally mentally where they’re no longer, you know abusing you and hurting you You have to get to the point where? You have worked on yourself in order to be able to do all of these things that I’m about to talk about Because if you haven’t found your power if you haven’t learned how to love yourself if you haven’t practiced this stuff with this person The abuse is just gonna continue to happen. So the next thing is you want to focus on the outcome that you want so a lot of people will Constantly say and I was one myself. I want this person to leave me alone I want this person to leave me alone and I wasn’t aware of the thoughts that I was thinking So I thought by thinking I want this person to leave me alone that the universe was gonna say, okay You don’t want this person in your life. All right, here we go I’m just gonna push them aside and I’m gonna like, you know, they’re gonna leave your existence when it Until I finally learned that the universe isn’t different to what I say. So if I say, I don’t want verses I do want all their hearing is want all the universe hears is want so if you say I don’t Want all the universes hearing is want so you have to learn How do you turn this negative sentence into a positive one to get the outcome that you want? one of the ways it’s not a matter of repeating the Thoughts that you don’t want like I don’t want to get fat. I don’t want this person in my life You need to you need to start accepting this person in your life And I know that sounds kind of counterintuitive, but it really really works So when I accept this person’s in my life when I accept that this person is unhealthy They’re abusive. And when I accept that they’re empty inside and that’s why they do these hurtful things because hurt people hurt people When I really fully accept that when I have learned to take responsibility for myself how I react in situations My own happiness my energy my vibration when I take responsibility for all of that and I accept that on some level this person’s in my life and I come okay with that that Means that I live life from a positive place And I’m not living from lack and when you live from lack you get more of lack So when I accepted okay, this person has to be in my life Okay, this person is abusive and I’m going to accept that from time to time This person is gonna throw this my way I’m going to accept that these the cards that I’m dealt and there’s a reason why this person’s in my life and I’m gonna actually look at this experience as a challenge for me to grow and be healthier better version of myself So I now am actually happy that you’re in my life Because you’re teaching me all of the things that I have never been able to do for myself Stand up for myself have healthy and positive self-talk learn how to set boundaries learn how to enforce boundaries this person is forcing me out of my comfort zone that I’ve lived for so long and it’s teaching me how to really stand up for myself and By by giving me all of this abuse all the shade This is forcing me to change who I am for the better. Now when you look at it from that standpoint You’re actually at a place where you can thank someone for doing what they do to you You know hurting you or have hurt you in the past. That’s when you see the lesson That’s when you see why this person is in your life and when you get to that place, some people really fight this part they don’t want to Embrace this shitty situation that they’re in and believe me who wants to be in a shitty Situation and who wants to have to deal with an abusive person? No one but there’s really only two options that you have you can either go with it and learn as much as you can Excuse me, or you can fight it and fight it and nothing ever changes So at a certain point I got to a place where I said, okay I keep fighting this and nothing is changing I have to try something else because it’s almost insanity for me to keep thinking that by doing the same thing I’m gonna get a different results when I’m not getting a different result. So I’m gonna change what I’m doing I’m gonna change my thinking I’m gonna change my beliefs and maybe that’ll spark. I didn’t a different result and it absolutely Did it’s so powerful and you can accept this or you can click, you know, click this video away, but when you change yourself Everything around you changes what the reason why some people get stuck in situations and things never change from them is because they want the outside to change and they don’t realize that in order for the external to change you have to change the internal first and When I got that That’s when I realize holy shit. I’m actually powerful. I’m actually creating my life. I’m actually Creating my happiness. That’s me taking Responsibility and it’s so self empowering to think that Wow My thoughts create my reality and if I take responsibility for my life that things around me change and it allows you to stop Forcing everyone around you to change who they are when that’s not your responsibility number one and it doesn’t matter if they change that’s an amazing place to be when you don’t need anyone to change who they are because You take responsibility for everything that’s going inside going on in your existence. The next thing is and this is really powerful Using visualization is such a powerful tool towards Manifestation what I’m trying to manifest something in my life if I want something to happen if I want something to come into my existence we’ve all if you ever learn about manifestation the law of attraction, I mean the 101 rule is Visualization so we have to live life as if it’s already in existence So when you live life like that by saying, okay, what do I want? And Whatever it is that I want It is a non-negotiable that it’s going to happen that type of thinking pushes you past fear It pushes you past your self-doubt it almost and I’m sure we’ve all Had something in our life that it had to happen There wasn’t even a question of whether or not it was going to happen now that’s the same tool that highly successful people have so using visualization is really really powerful because Everyone in our life is taking up space in our existence and we get to choose who lives in our world, right? So we get to decide whether we keep a family member in we get to decide who our friends are we get to pick our partners we get to pick all Of these people. So if you can say to someone I do not want you in my life anymore That’s amazing because you’re freeing up that space for someone healthier to enter your existence or to meet a great partner Finally because you’ve ended this relationship, that’s no longer serving you And even if you can’t physically have someone leave your life mentally you can still have them go away emotionally They can still not be in your in your life anymore and that still frees up space for someone else. So using visualization It’s just a matter of you Living life as if this person doesn’t exist anymore to you that their behavior Doesn’t have an effect on you anymore and again This is a practice but really sitting in the space of feeling what it would feel like to be free from this person and if you no matter who the person is, whether it’s a family member or a relationship or anyone now what you want to think about is how amazing it feels to be free from this and Who do you want in your existence now? So when we are using visualization, and we’re thinking about all of these things Another great thing to think about is you having a peaceful relationship with this person now if you’re dealing with a narcissist what I mean by peaceful is Not this person being a good person not this person doing the right thing saying the right thing that they’ve stopped being difficult that they stopped you know bullying you and threatening you and abusing you and trying to Gaslight you I’ll take all of that aside just That no matter what this person gives you that you’re at peace that you know how to handle it yourself That no matter what they try to throw at you that you’ll be okay that you know how to love yourself You know how to parent yourself and that’s you having a peaceful relationship with them It’s not them changing but it’s it’s a different perspective on what a peace of peaceful Relationships should be so that no matter what they do. They don’t affect you. The last thing is enforcing your boundaries now if you want to be free from this person if you don’t want their Abuse anymore you’re so mentally drained. You’re physically exhausted emotionally exhausted and you’re like, please go away, please go away. Please. Leave me alone That is never gonna work coming from that weak place, but we found our power we’re working on ourself We’re using visualization and now we have the strenght to learn how to not only set our boundaries but how to enforce them and people ask me this all the Time, how do I enforce boundaries how do I enforce boundaries and every situation is completely different? But in order to enforce a boundary, it can be as simple as someone saying You know every time I pick you up, you’re always late. So going forward. I’m not gonna pick you up for work anymore You’re gonna have to find your own ride because I’ve asked you time and time again. Please be on time That’s really important to me It shows a sign of respect and you can are continuously late and you obviously don’t care about Being respectful of me in my time. And so going forward you’re gonna have to find a ride to work yourself That’s you enforcing a boundary and sticking with it until Possibly depending on who the person is depending on how many chances you’ve given that person that you say. Okay I’m gonna try one more time, and then that’s it. But then you have to stick to it It’s it’s being a parent essentially your parenting yourself It’s just like you dealing with children when children do something wrong and they have to get punished There’s a consequence for their actions You can’t just take back that Consequence because the child will never learn that they can’t mess with you like that that it can’t do that behavior that they can’t Behave the way that they are save the things that they’re saying because there really is no consequence because you have poor boundaries So that’s you loving yourself as being able to enforce boundaries Now if you’re dealing with a narcissist or someone who’s abusive or unhealthy setting boundaries? Really? Could mean you leaving the situation like physically leaving the situation or ending the relationship and that’s something that sometimes people don’t want to do but the fact of the matter is How many times do you have to say to someone? Hey this bothers me and nothing change I mean, what are you gonna do? Are you gonna keep like pleading? And Negotiating because you come from such lack and that you feel like you need this person in your life in some way shape or form I mean you really don’t So if it comes to a relationship that you’re having with someone a boyfriend a partner and they can’t respect your boundaries Well, then they don’t have you in their life And that’s the consequence. That’s you enforcing your boundaries with someone if it gets to that point and but really what you have to be able to do is know what You expect from this person if they’re doing something that’s bothering you you need to know What do I actually want them to do that? I would deem respectful that they care about me and that they’re showing me that they care about what I think and how I feel So you need to be able to know that? So when you know that you communicate that in an appropriate way, so you communicate that in a self loving way Which is you say it calmly, you know, you say exactly what you need You’re not beating around the bush because you don’t want to seem like you know You’re being too needy or you don’t want to be labeled as a bitch or anything like that. You are a Self-sufficient self loving person who is able to communicate what they think and how they feel to anyone. So when you do that and Someone says okay. I completely understand. I respect what you have to say and I will really work on this going forward now it’s a matter of seeing if they’re gonna actually work on the things that they say they’re gonna work on and then then if they don’t You only have two options. You either are gonna keep giving chances and chances or you’re gonna say, okay. Well we can’t be friends Okay well We can’t be in a relationship because this is really a deal-breaker for thee and I really feel disrespected by you know The fact that you say these things to me or you do these things to me So those really those are the only two options when it comes to enforcing boundaries with someone Maybe you don’t help someone out as much as you usually did Maybe you don’t pick up the phone and answer their calls as much as you usually did in the past And that’s your way of setting boundaries, but you can’t be passive-aggressive about it You can’t just all of a sudden stop answering your mother’s phone call. You have to tell her Hey, look, I love you. And I this relation to work I want us to have a great relationship but I’ve asked you time and time and again and please be respectful of this and you continue to not respect my boundaries and I’m gonna I’m sorry, but I have to start distancing myself from you because I have to take care of myself first and foremost So that way you’re communicating that way when mom calls and you don’t pick up she knows why you’re not picking up So that’s you always communicating yourself Effectively with people so getting back to the topic of getting rid of this person so if you learn to enforce boundaries with this person again, you’re showing them that You are not gonna manipulate me. You’re not gonna walk all over me You’re not gonna shit all over me and that when I stand up for myself I mean business so you can’t do this abusive manipulative threatening You know tactics anymore because I’m not fearful of you anymore. I don’t live in fear when I’m around you I’m not worried about what you think. I’m not worried about how I am looked at And I looked at as you know, crazy or a bitch or you know, someone who is not cooperative. I know That I’m a good person and I know that my boundaries mean that I’m loving myself now when you get to that place where you’re so self loving you’re able to do these things for yourself you are becoming Law to them because they’re not getting what they want from you so they’re not getting the positive supply They’re not able to manipulate you to get what they want out of you And then even if you are fighting them on their manipulation, you’re no longer reacting negatively You’re no longer getting entangled in that mess you have officially cut the cord and there’s no gray area it’s just black or white you no longer affect me and Eventually that person will just go away so they won’t bother you anymore. They’ll leave you alone And when I tell you I’m a test that this works Helping you, but it takes time and people often message me and say, you know I’ve been doing this forever. And this person’s still bothering me. Well, here’s the thing. This person is known you for a very long time And it is going to take a long time for them to learn that you are no longer This person that you used to be that would take on their abuse So depending on who the nurses is depending on how relentless they are And they all are relentless that they may not get the message right away and again You may have to do this stuff over and over and over again time after time and don’t worry about how long it’s gonna take just know that every time you have to do this you’re Building the muscle within yourself to stand up to yourself to stand up to this person to love yourself and that’s all good stuff So just look at every interaction as really great practice and eventually all of a sudden you’ll wake up and you’ll go Wow, this person’s hasn’t been in my life for a while. They haven’t bothered me They haven’t bugged me and that’s when you get what you want. So I hope this has helped you guys out there Hope you enjoy the video if you haven’t already don’t forget to subscribe and click on the notification bell Don’t forget about the bell. It will inform you every time I do upload a new video So I hope you enjoyed this and I will see you next week

100 thoughts on “How to Get a NARCISSIST to LEAVE You ALONE! | Learn how to Free yourself from them!

  1. So true…sometimes it takes a few kind to yourself if you didnt get it the first or second ..or seventh time with these will be victorious!..

  2. I've been lucky in that I have been able to recognize toxicity , even before I knew anything about narcissism, and just remove myself from their life pretty much from the 1st time without any difficulty. I have always just been able to forget someone who treats me badly pretty quick. Too happy and confident to worry about those who decide to try and mess with me for any reason. My problem now is keeping my cat safe while I'm at work until I get a new apartment and escape my current psycho. I got a keyed doorknob for my bedroom to keep my cat safe but she saw that and since the thermostat is in my bedroom she gleefully informed me, upon seeing the new doorknob, that if I forgot to turn the AC off in the morning she would not hesitate to break the lock to get in my room.

  3. Good point about NO energy. They feast on negativity and conflict as well as praise and ass-kissing. Go grey rock and try to remove yourself from their presence as much as is possible. DO NOT ENGAGE.

  4. Great Lyn, God bless
    Very informative video, will try to do this technique see if I can pull it off. Thanks for the recommendation on how to cope with the Narc and toxic people. Many blessings

  5. I have both colleague and boss are narcissist, pretty easy with the colleague just ignore and imagine that this person doesn’t exit. When you have to say hi. Just look above his head not his eyes then you are mostly fine. But this does not work with the boss if you don’t have eye contact. He knows and will rage…

  6. Put God first and let him have control and the narcissist will go away.

  7. Problem is I'm in court against this person It's a long story. Long story with this one conjugal abuse and 2 kids. I have separated myself, but abuse very difficult I haven't reacted anymore I screamed and swore at my computer to audios I recorded of him to get my anger out to be able to heal and fix myself. A bully and Intimidated It's difficult now I'm feisty. I have my boxing gloves on. Nasty ppl Can't get into it ,but yeah.

  8. This video really hit me hard in my heart. Learning how to accept my husbands narcissistic ex wife is not easy. But, she is there for many more years, as we have to co-parent with her. Regardless of all she has done to me, I am thankful she has hurt me as much as she has, because I have become a better person learning how to deal with evil like her.

  9. That is great information. That this person, unbeknownst to themselves, is helping me to learn all of these things I need to see.

  10. Seeing everyone's story really inspires me to tell mine. I was in emotionally abusive relationship with my ex fiance and at the time I thought I was doing good sending her money to her and her child at a time when she was not living with me and when I finally told her I no longer wanted to be her financial guy she cussed at me and said all kinds of nasty things and try to flip it around like I'm responsible for it it hurted me mentally and I thought that I was nothing until I finally stood up for myself and I got tired of the mental abuse I've been doing with this for 4 years well no more this video really has helped me out I know it'll take time for me cuz I just got out of it so I know it's going to be worth it thank you for sharing this video.

  11. For years we have put up with narcissist behavior from my sister in law and sometimes my mother in law as well but not as severe. Now since my MIL has dementia and deteriorating we have helped as much as we can all the while being verbally abused by my husband's sister. It has gotten really bad that it has caused me anxiety and depression that we recently had to cut out not just my sister in law but now my brother in law and his wife. I am sad and struggle everyday how Fucked up my in laws have become but my husband and I have to think of our sanity and health. With family being abusive it is hard to let go and cut them out but I think eventually it can be done. Like Stephanie said it will take work and keep setting boundaries, it will eventually work.

  12. Call the cops or take matters into your own hands, sorry but keeping it real

  13. And soon as a person trys to do all that good stuff to rise up, sometimes they wind up dying or being killed or badly inured. That's not for everyone but, for a lot of people

  14. This may work if they are a lesser narcissist. Mine is wanting a confrontation. Land lords say avoid her. We live in row houses so we share a common wall. Hubby & I cut her off over a year ago. We got security cameras & document all, which she hates. Her older female room mate is getting just like her. No, living next door to a vengeful narc is never ever peaceful. Ever. If I could move, I would.

  15. what if you deal with them with violence , law aside, just staying on topic, since words are not the tool for the job, or are they by knowing the insecurity that makes them a narcissist nice or mean aside only as a tool to make them not want to interact with you

  16. I love this video has helped me so much when feeling vulnerable. Thank you so much Stephanie cx

  17. This is the best advice I've heard yet. Grey rock is just shrinking into yourself and can make you dissociate. This is truly standing in your power.

  18. I like your video thank u you help me a lot Gbu 💔😥🙏 he destroy my emotions and hurt me 😔

  19. Hi good morning i m new and you channel and I like your channel my God thank u Gbu I feel much better today lol 🤗👍

  20. My ex wife wants to get counseling so we can Coparent . What is your thought on this ?

  21. They are skilled individuals…it’s tactics… I was blown away how they are so skilled I’m like wow this isn’t normal

  22. There's a narc in my life who is trying to bully me into accepting his heroism; I want to convince him that I will call him as needed; but right now, he's not in a position to be my hero; because he still needs me to act as his. You might think we could act as a team, and maybe we could have if he weren't so brutally forceful and disrespecful toward my personal process and with his proposals. He seriously needs to stop, drop & roll. I have a case worker & attorney. Yet, this guy thinks he knows more than they, who run my housing program. Plus, I've done this before more calmly before ever meeting him. This guy remembers moving me in a short period of time, but my legal situation was different then from what it has been and from what it presently is. There's no telling this guy anything. I am someone to slam around for him. He has one month to go in order to succeeed for himself, and it may be that he'll have to succeed without my help–although, its a life & death situation for him. I really wanted to see him through, but I do not really feel like I can. I am not confident that others will help-out, as much as he needs them to for re-acquiring his driver's license, truck insurance, and doctor's appointments, too, in the meantime. The people trying to help are more of a hinderence. I don't want to be around some of them invading my personal space & his. He tries to force their "help" onto me, too. I have a family for heaven's sake.

  23. Sometimes when you cut a narc bully off they get mad and become dangerous, it's like their going to make deal with their crap, I'm a man and I'm going threw that now from a childhood friend who I've only helped I've never done anything to hurt him, I very upset with him and I don't fear him but now he's trying to intimidate me which has me thinking of doing violent things to him!

  24. Thank you for the clarity finally I get it …thank you 🙏❤️

  25. Pray as if it has already happened. That's the original manifestation direct from the Bible.

  26. I am an introvert kind. I have very low social skills. It takes a lot interactions for me to open up to some one to have normal conversation. I had roommates before but never faced any problems .My current roommate always tries to insult me and manages to push all my buttons. I get this feeling that he thinks I am inferior to him. I bear through his insults most of the time. Sometimes I get tired and try to say something to him and he creates a huge drama and in the end he makes my other roommates believe that I harassed him; I am very bad at verbal confrontation. whenever I try to respond to his insults he manages to say something to which I don't have a counter . I am planning to find a new place

  27. Stephanie how exactly do you respond verse react I don’t know how to do that?

  28. This message here is, basically, get some self-knowledge. Learn where all your hot buttons are, and learn to identify what you feel like when they are being pressed.

  29. your words always play in my head when i deal with toxic people

  30. Excellent and meaningful advice. I'm finding it's about what we accept in our lives, our vibrations and our expectations for respect in interactions. Definitely not going down to a low level.

  31. Thank you for your amazing advice. My ex spouse is a narcissist and I have finally freed myself from him and he keeps trying to come back and lie and make up crazy stories about me and it does not even phase me. I mean my heart goes out to him because thats just who I am as a person but I recognize that the behavior on his part is not healthy, its toxic and emotionally draining. His feelings and emotions projected on me are his wounds and aspects of himself that he is not able to face because he is not capable of accepting responsibility of his actions. I will always love him because we share a child together but we cannot be together.

  32. This person is the type of person that will take you to court, get your business license removed, turn can't connections against you, make lies up and worst of all he believes them, twist things to his advantage, makeup stories, become alliances with your enemies and destroy everything in your life. It's giving him everything he wants or losing everything and you can't get rid of these people or kick them out bc they'll leave defaming you, destroying you, filing fake police reports against you, lying at court, acting like a victim even though this person abuses you, and take you to court and turn people against me. I'd be damned for destruction if I tell him to leave when his boss enables his behavior and believes everything he tells her bc she is somewhat similar. And then it's two ladies stressed out and dealing with emotional abuse and being afraid bc with these people they just drain you, bring you problems, so many headaches and it's scary the way they react and how there's nothing you can say or do to defend yourself

  33. very good. pity you feel the need to use the word "sh*t". it does not become you. there are better ways of expressing yourself – try visualising some.

  34. Thank you for your vids/commentaries.

    When one's internal compass has not been programmed correctly from childhood, it's hard to know when your being sucked in by a narc. Especially when you were raised by a narc at some level. Dating a narc …feels familiar. Learn to know yourself.

  35. sutton council put me in a flat on top of a narcissist after my ex narcissist partner made me homeless, she is obsessed, I cannot use my bin, she stands staring at my bedroom window for hours at a time, I watched foxes once when there were cubs so ever since she tries to kill them, she sent a letter saying how she heard me walk across the floor and everything I do all heavily underlined, I was going to be evicted because she continually lied to the council, I had to get my mp involved, no thing happens about my side because its all supposed to be my fault, of course she SCREAMS and RAGES the place down for hours at a time, but a toddler would stop, she doesnt, continually bashes and slaps everything making me jump. Going to the mp was a waste of time, they just decided I have to be subjected to the horror forever, instead of being evicted, because her deranged behaviour is all supposed to be my fault.

  36. Imagine if you were giving this advice to a Narcissist. You're just making it so much worse because it only reinforced that their beliefs must definitely be the right belief. And people who doesn't listen to you deserved to be punished for their action (even if you contributed to their mistake yourself).

  37. This was great. Thank you. I am removing a narcissist from my life right now. No longer speaking anything to him. Total gray rock. It gets scary at times like when he tried cutting me off from getting back to my home the other day. And still afraid to just walk to the post office because of this. I have already told him leave me alone last November. Been enforcing it since by no contact answering the phone or door etc. He no longer affects me other then his what I felt semi aggressiveness to try to block my or cut me off from my home. I have now put locks on all yard gates as he was known to just walk into my yard. Feeling better with the locks even though I hate to feel like I have to live this way. I feel it is sending the message loud and clear with out having to speak.

  38. I need a happy life. I am surrounded on both ends of my family with these people. And I can't get them away in this point in my life. I can only do so much.

  39. Thank you. This video was inspiring. I will be saving and watching it again.

  40. I watch your videos over and over and they help me all the time so thanks for sharing your wisdom much appreciated and I love you

  41. You go no contact. Best thing I ever did with my mother in law

  42. have you created a video yet that talks about what narcissist supply actually looks like? It would be helpful to know how we are unconsciously adding to their supply.

  43. I just wanted to say thank you for what you are doing on this channel

  44. Absolutely lovely advice. I just got out of a toxic relationship, and the person wasn't even a narcissist, yet your valuable perspective offered me some nuggets of wisdom that I intend to use to not just move on but grow stronger!

  45. This is so true! Reinvent yourself as a person who does not tolerate and fall for the stupidity. Keep your dignity by not engaging with the narc and having your own life, friends, goals, and responsibilities. Give them no supply or reactions. It will take time for them to get the message of the NEW YOU! But just keep at it and they’ll fall off eventually!

  46. So true. Thank you for sharing.
    It's a healing process. At first being so confused I didn't know what to do, but we do need to allow ourselves to feel, accept, and heal. Once I allowed myself to accept where I now was, all those feelings floating all over could be healed but as long as we remain angry and trying to figure everything out that's where we remain. I'm thankful it happened. If hurting people hurt people, I too was hurting people. Maybe when we get to the bottom we find the way. Maybe once we are broken, we can finally be whole. It's not easy but take courage. One day at a time.

  47. I really think we all don't have to face all these deceit and lies from our spouse or a narcissist …in a case of mine wen i got sick and tired of all the lies and deceit i had to contact a friend of mine to get me the contact of one of the best hackers in the states ..then i met [email protected] saved me from the lies of my cheating wife by hacking his phone..Incase you need help with hacking any phone or account or other jobs contact him via email at  ([email protected]) or Whatsapp +16265785544 or instagram @blonde_hacker_ Tell him i reffered you.He will help you.

  48. ruin workplace bullies with cyber-bullying. You have the first amendment. Especially after you do all you can to ignore, be nice and all others yet they succeed in manipulating supervisors and other employees into believing lies about you!!!!!!

  49. Something I'm living and learning you attract what you entertain. When you stop entertaining crazy or evil you stop attracting it to you.

  50. Everyone deserves to not only be free from narcissists, but also know the Truth…

  51. Interesting video however, when your mother is a pathological liar and your wife believes that she has changed its very hard to remove the liar from your life. Sad but true 🤷‍♂️

  52. Hello mam, I am really a great fan of your content and how you are trying to make good people feel great and protecting a rare species on the earth called the "Empaths" which is constantly being preyed by "Naarcissists" and getting near to the brink of extinction. God bless you with loads of happiness! 🙂

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  54. 6:05 we need to stop saying "hurt people, hurt people" because abusers enjoy hurting others and victims of narcissistic abuse are hurt and instead we're here learning how to cope. Abusers hurt people. Period.

  55. Today is his birthday. Today is the first time in 8 years I didn't wish him a happy birthday. If he hasn't noticed I went no contact, he will today. It's strange, but I feel even after everything he did to me, he will be expecting a message from me today. My silence will show him how I feel, and I know it will hurt him somehow. Maybe that's what they call narcissistic injury. Anyway, I'm a bit nervous about this… Ironically, today is also exactly two months of no contact. It's the longest I haven't spoken to him in my life. But no matter how much I'm hurt, deep down inside, I feel that that discard was a chance for me to escape that relationship. And I'm going to use this chance.

  56. I appreciate your wisdom, I really do and I did try theses tactics of not letting them get to me and letting their words roll off my shoulders. I was dealing with my mother-in-law and sister in law. I’ve tried to just be a plant while in their presence but it just didn’t seem to work. It almost seemed like they hated me more for being sooo calm…. Then I got pregnant and very hormonally unbalanced and trust me, I wasn’t taking sh*t from anybody. I unleashed hormonal rage on these women to the point I almost got physical!!! I know that wasn’t the healthiest option especially for my wellbeing and baby but i couldn’t help it!! But it worked!! The next few days they were walking on eggshells around me. I’ve completely cut ties with them and they haven’t bugged me in almost a year. My husband stands behind me 100% and has vowed to protect me from now on from his family. I don’t know what’s going to happen in the future or if they’ll try anything new. But I’ll be ready for battle again if they want some of this

  57. 7:00 you can't actually deal with it if they have a tantrum several times a day

  58. Wow…I needed this message soooooo bad!! This is one if the BEST videos I’ve watched on this subject! Thank you thank you thank you!!!

  59. Can u do me a favour, and thank you

    I will pay u back (never)

    I love u… (Me) what do u want.

    Anticipate every need. (Her) "Be a man, U know what to do"

    So and so ex did this or that and u should know exactly what to do

    After spending ur last buck, " Ur the best boyfriend ever"

    Going in to hug n kiss then she pulls away. But being ready at the drop of a dime for when she wants to hug n kiss and be comforted.

    Using things u told against u, to manipulate u to surve her imediate wants

    Leaning in to whisper negative words like ( idiot, bade, stupid, immature, dumb ass)

    Demanding, controlling, manipulation, demeaning, jealous, parinoid about other girls and accusing u of her own delusions

  60. This was our final argument, they are not easy to get rid of at all… like parasites. Over 2 years free 🙂

  61. So if they come to me casa can i say im over you u gaught me lote thank u but i dont really wanna be ure friend then they argue n im like im sorry u feel that way sorry im done lock the gate us scary

  62. Oh you are so right I did all that you said basically finding inner healing and peace . We went no contact for along time for almost a year.then I allowed him back big mistake but I had boundaries .he started doing the verbel abuse again and I would cry because I know who and what he is not because the words effected me but because I knew he was hurting inside. I am a empath to the max and I tried to be his friend but in the end here very recent he tried to bash me again and gaslight me and I told him enough is enough. He said he was going to block me and I said cool because I had already decided that this was the end of us .. he asked for help but never says what help he needs always tells me that I don't understand but I do .I told him he needs to fix his life and grow the hell up then I hung up the phone and deleted and blocked his numbers.. yeah I let him get me angry and I knew then this had to be the last time he got that supply from me .I really thought this man was my soulmate and I loved him so much .but at the end of the day I had to heal and love me and do what's best for my life .I told him I would pray for him and wish him the best 🙏

  63. How to get a Narcissist to leave you Alone. This is a Good Video. However I would NEVER Treat a Mother this way. I would NOT push a Mother away!! Yes Parents also need to show Respect. Adult Children need to Really Love their Parents and listen to each others Feelings.

  64. Wow thank you so much for this video. This is so helpful in dealing with my mother in law.

  65. I agree that if the person has been in your life for a long time it is harder for them to get the message and harder for you (me) to continue with your resolve to distance yourself. But you must! The narc will not want you to change and it’s amazing all the tactics they use to push back and resist. But continue. Remaining narc naive will take precious years from your life.

    I like that you emphasize that it may take a while and that it is actually a process of inner change for the non narc. One good thing is that you learn all about the disorder and how to manage yourself with these individuals while you are learning to set boundaries and distance yourself. You will be prepared the next time you encounter one and can avoid entanglement. And the one you are dealing with now probably won’t be the last one!

  66. Narcissists are extremely envious and jealous to their bones…………..

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