Jared Singer – “Just Take a Shower” (Button Live)


The hardest thing I ever did was take a shower. Holding the body of someone you love
who has committed suicide is easy. All you have to do is sit there
while you wait for the paramedics and hope that you are wrong, pray that there is still
a person here to save. When you are in shock,
the weight of a torso is negligible. For all of the strain
it puts on your body, you might as well be
on the beach holding a book. I think we should redefine
the word tragedy as “that which is impossible to get over.” Unless you are profoundly lucky, it will happen to you. And on that day, when all of your happy
daydreams seem tiny and all of your nightmares seem huge, on the day when the worst
what-if you can ever imagine has already happened, when a friend who you love
has committed suicide, when your stepfather
is paralyzed probably forever– whatever your tragedy is, please use me as a cautionary tale. Because only a madman
tries to do the impossible, and after her death,
I was indeed a madman. I tried to get over her suicide, and, failing that, I did nothing. I sat in my own filth for three weeks until a dear friend walked
into my room carrying a towel, hoping that I was not
another impossible task, and said, “You are taking
a shower right now.” That shower was the hardest thing
I have ever done. You cannot get over somebody,
but you can take a shower. And then you can get dressed. And then you can find your keys. And then you can go grocery shopping. And then you can do your laundry. And then it’s 10 years later, and they are still dead,
and you are happy. I don’t believe in God, but I do believe in miracles, in things so large
that they seem impossible but when you do them
one tiny step at a time, you get them done. Taking a shower is a miracle. Laughing is a miracle. Being here is a miracle. See, that’s the real example. We all give up, and we all hide, and we all wallow in our own whatever awful we have to wallow in. But if you’re lucky, if there’s a miracle, you take a shower, and you get up, and you keep doing tiny things until the world
is a slightly less dark place. Thank you. (cheers and applause)

100 thoughts on “Jared Singer – “Just Take a Shower” (Button Live)

  1. I've lost two friends, and one lover to themselves in this last year.. i've lost myself. But, my poetry holds me to this planet. Jared's words are the things that motivate me

  2. I literally had to pause the video to get myself together in order to continue watching.

  3. My brother killed himself Jan 8th, 2017. I listen to this poem when I think about dying myself, to be with him.

  4. 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

  5. The person that may have been the love of my life committed suicide a month ago. Every word of this is profoundly accurate and important. I cried for a very long time after watching this, but i think i needed it. Thank you, Jared Singer. Your words have impacted me in a way i cannot describe.

  6. this is so beautiful and im crying right now but i thought “huh, he kinda sounds like seth rogen” and now the image will not leave my head

  7. Yesterday i was asked if I had no goal in my life by a friend and … I realized i didnt that I was living day by day and started to feel guilty … But then i remembered the reason why i live like this i remembered this poem…

    Poeple like my friend dont undertand how it is to live so depressed that you have to find something small to keep you alive day by day …b

  8. My father died when I was 7. The nightmares were so bad I made myself stop dreaming for years. I can dream again at last started only these past few years

  9. I once didn’t shower for a month because I slept 23 hours a day for a entire month of my summer vacation. My depression wasn’t even that bad back then. It’s so much worse now. Now i wanna kill myself so hard every day. I don’t shower. I cry. I don’t eat, I puke. I’m not sad, I’m numb.

  10. I just want you to know that I watch this video whenever a shower is overdue. It's funny how such simple and little things are impossible when you have depression. You are to me what the friend with the towel was to you

  11. My sister posted this on Facebook. I just got home from the hospital after a suicide attempt. I almost did this to sister… I'm sorry. I'm so sorry

  12. You do them one step at a time.

    Im crying. Thank you for making me get up today.

  13. I've never really suffered anything truly tragic, but… if nothing else, I hope if it comes to it, I can be that friend who says "You are taking a shower, right now."

  14. The hardest thing I ever did was take a shower
    Holding the body of someone you love who has committed suicide is easy
    All you have to do is sit there while you wait for the paramedics
    And hope that you are wrong,
    Pray that there is still a person here to save
    When you are in shock the weight of a torso is neglegable
    For all of the strain it puts on your body, you might as well be on the beach holding a book

    I think we should redifine the word 'tragedy' as 'that-which-is-impossible-to-get-over'
    Unless you are profoundly lucky, it will happen to you
    And on that day, when all of your happy daydreams seem tiny
    And all of your nightmares seem huge
    On the day when the worst what if you can ever imagine has already happened
    When a friend who you love has committed suicide
    When your stepfather is paralyzed probably forever
    Whatever your tragedy is
    Please use me as a cautionary tale
    Because only a madman tries to do the impossible
    And after her death I was indeed a madman
    I tried to get over her suicide
    And failing that, I did nothing
    I sat in my own filth for three weeks until a dear friend walked into my room carrying a towel hoping that I was not another impossible task
    And said you are taking a shower right now
    That shower was the hardest thing I have ever done
    You cannot get over somebody, but you can take a shower
    And then you can get dressed
    And then you can find your keys and then you can go grocery shopping
    And then you can do your laundry
    And then it's 10 years later and they are still dead and you happy

    I don't believe in God
    But I do believe in miracle
    In things so large they seem impossible when you do them
    One tiny step at a time you get them done
    Taking a shower is a miracle
    Laughing is a miracle
    Being here is a miracle
    See, that's the real example
    We all give up
    And we all hide
    And we all wallow in our own whatever awful we have to wallow in
    But if you're lucky
    If there's a miracle
    You take a shower
    And you get up
    And you keep doing tiny things until the world is a slightly less dark place

  15. She woke up. I watched the love of my life die tonight and I forced her back and now…now nothing. I'm numb, empty I'm gone. She woke up but I died inside. How does this make any sense? Why can't I cry? I just want to cry but I'm too numb to shed a tear. Help me cry. Please, all I want is to cry as I hold her in my arms and tell her everything will be okay.

  16. i weeped for the entire second half of this poem. beautiful

  17. I don't know if the author keeps tabs on the comments on the poem, but if you do, may I please quote the redefining tradgedy part in one of my own poems? I would like to have your permission before I do because that part spoke to me and inspired a poem in my own mind.

  18. I just heard this poem for the first time and the only thing i did is get up and take a shower

  19. it feels impossible until you do it and you realize how a simple task you've been overthinking can be the first piece of you feeling whole again. sometimes your mind tricks you into thinking theres so many wrong things happening you cant even make the time for a quick shower, whether you take that shower or clean your room or whatever you think you cant do those thoughts will be there but knowing you have a clean vessel for your soul to grow and freshly washed sheets, a vacuumed floor, organised books and cds, and a lit candle its incredible how little these things seem when they can be a start to you cleansing your mind and making you feel like a decent human being because even if you dont have your life together you can make yourself feel like youre starting to

  20. Just take a shower lyrics by Jared Singer
    (I hope I got them Right)

    the hardest thing I've ever did was take a shower. holding the body of someone you love who has committed suicide is..easy.
    all you have to do is sit there while you wait for the paramedics, and hope that you are wrong ,pray that there is still a person here to save .
    when you are in shock ,the weight of a torso is negligible for all the strain it puts on your body ,might as well be on the beach holding a book.
    I think we should reDefine the word tragedy as that which is a impossible to get over unless you are profoundly lucky,it will happen to you and on that day when all of your Happy daydreams seem tiny and all of your nightmares seem huge,on the day when the worst what if you could ever imagin has already happened, when a friend who you love has committed suicide ,when your step father is paralyzed probably forever will ever your tragedy ends,please use me a cautionary tale.because only a mad man tries to do the impossible.
    and after her death I was indeed a mad man ,I tried to get over her suicide .
    and failing that I did nothing I sat on my own filth for three weeks until a dear friend walked into my room carrying a towel hoping that I was not another impossible task and said " you are taking a shower RIGHT NOW " that shower was the hardest thing I have ever done ,you can't get over somebody but you can take a shower ,and then you can get dressed and then you can find your keys and then you can go grocery shopping and then you can do your laundry and then it's ten years later and they are still dead and you are happy
    I don't believe in God but I do believe in miracles .
    in things so large they seem impossible when you do them one tiny step at a time you get them done .taking a shower is a miracle, laughing is a miracle ,being here is a miracle.
    so that is the real example.
    we all give up ,we all hide ,and we all wallow in our own whatever awful we have to Wallow in.but if you are lucky ,if there is a miracle ,you take a shower and you get up,and you keep doing tiny things into a world that is slightly less dark place

  21. i weep for this woman called sarah, but i have never known her, just the ghost of her he speaks about

  22. This poem hit me extremely hard. I just found it recently. It's been almost a year since my mom committed suicide. Such a heartbreaking thing to go through I'm just lucky enough to have a bunch of people here for me…including my mom even if she isn't physically here anymore, she's here spiritually with us.

  23. When I became depressed I was asking myself why the f*** no one told me that taking a shower will be hard as running a marathon.

  24. I've been suffering with mental illness for 18 years. During my worst episodes/periods, I can go weeks without a shower. Because, like you say, it becomes the hardest thing in the world. To know that I am not alone in feeling this, makes me sad, but also gives me hope. Let's all remember, to just take a shower today.

  25. I wish just taking a shower could just wash away the pain we are suffering. That would make me happy for once.

  26. I’m gonna re peaks that…using the same title that is….but that really hit me…I’m suicidal and this made me think of how my friends and family would feel if I passed. Loved this❤️

  27. Wow. I just can't get over how words become feelings when they are aline in such a perfect way. Wonderful poem! Cheers for another day.

  28. My friend just passed away on the 15th I found out Saturday the day before my birthday and went to the funeral yesterday her heart stopped while they were prepping her for open heart surgery it hurts and is difficult she's been my friend for almost 7 years I loved her very much this video htelps a little thank you.

  29. This small 4 minute poem has gotten me through so many terrible things. I just want to say thank you Jared, I don’t think you can understand how helpful this has been. By far my favorite poem on this entire earth.

  30. This has got to be one of the most powerful poems I have ever heard. Thank you for this.

  31. When I was young, my Mom would tell me to "shower it off", as my son grew older I would say the same to him. there's something magical about a shower. thanks for capturing it in this beautiful poem

  32. Took the first shower in like a week only because I threw up. This is inportant❤️

  33. I’ve been exactly where Javon Johnson
    Is coming from with this.
    I’ve held the body of a friend who purposely Overdosed.
    Another friend who got caught by a stray in a drive by, a fucking bystander with no affiliations.

    I know the pain of, and just how fucking difficult it’s is to even entertain the idea of a shower.

    Thank you Javon,
    for your powerful words.

  34. I need to talk will you just listen or will you hear? No one has a towel for me

  35. Watched this while trying to think of a reason to get up and take a shower. 👍

  36. This hits so hard… especially when you've been through similar experiences. Wow.

  37. when you break up with some one you love and never see or hear from them again its like they died.

  38. On Friday, I was almost hospitalized because I wanted to kill myself. I have been searching so reasons to stay. This has helped me realized what it would do to me bestfriend. Thank you.

  39. I finally took a shower.. but it still hurts, the empty feeling in my heart remains..

  40. Does anyone know if he has published this poem? I’m doing a POI for speech’s nd debate and would love to put his poem in it. I can only do it if it’s been published. I can’t seem to find it anywhere but didn’t wanna give up just yet.

  41. Sometimes it’s so damn hard to do basic things and thank you for putting that into words! When my dad died unexpectedly,if it hadn’t been for my husband then I wouldn’t have taken a shower for months.

  42. This hits so hard. His words. My heart. My oh my… this is spoken truth.

  43. Finding the girl I love was a miracle but also a tragedy because who would've known that I was going to love her like a boy would and that she would be the first one to reject me and maybe not the last but the first to have my heart

  44. god taking a shower has always been one of the hardest things for me with my depression and trauma

  45. I use this every year on july 21st. 10 days before my birthday the man who raised me and showed me what real love is died. I cant bring him back or stop the pain but i CAN take a shower, get up. And keep doing those small things. Thank you

  46. Ask yourself did you create yourself. look around at all creation- human beings, animals, trees, birds, sun, moon,stars etc etc. did a finite human being create this NO. So this amazing Universe has a CREATOR. Love,Unity and happiness to all humanity. One Love.

  47. This is a great speech, but I feel it could have some form of content warning.

  48. Reminds me of Auri and The Slow Regards of Silent Things.
    If there’s a miracle/ you take a shower/ and you get up/ and you keep doing the little things until the world becomes a slightly less dark place.

  49. I lost my baby brother to suicide on july 17, 2019… nothing feels real anymore

  50. My mother would tell me to even brush my hair because I look a mess all I could say is “I don’t care” deep down it’s the very thing I cry about, not being perfect

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