Rejection is NOT Failure!

how about it okay so no we always service oh yeah always service so it's so embarrassing it's so so no I'm not gonna do so another word am I talking to authors or listening to them talk on Twitter at conferences there's one thing that keeps coming up that they fear or feel that rejection is failure and I can see that except that I don't see it that way I mean rejection in my mind is just another step towards success yeah and anytime you're doing anything in life anything new you're going to face rejection I mean starting book ends not just the submissions I sent up I mean I can't I wish I could even tell you the number of submissions and projects that we created and worked with authors and dead that have never seen the light of day and will never see the light of day as an agency and when we first started out as a packager yep but each of those both success and rejection were steps towards getting where we are now yes I'm not unique in this thought I'm not a virgin I've created disclaimer I read somewhere I can't remember where so if anybody knows I can give them credit to collect rejections and to set your goal as rejections and not as successes yeah so and when you're querying set your yearly goal I want 50 rejections this year which means you have to get out 75 queries well we've talked about that even here at Booker right that sometimes when sending out submissions on behalf of our clients or for those of us doing nonfiction reaching out to potential authors and ask them to become clients you know every person we connect with is not going to say yes right but every person you connect with is giving you a smaller piece of the puzzle for the next time yeah even if it's not on this book so right one agent says this is a little too high fantasy for me but you've got something else in the hopper then you have that agent in mind so everything sort of falls into place and you learn even if it's a tiny tiny little bit of something even if you learn that you don't even want to work with that agent anymore yeah if they're not the kind of person that you thought they were you learn and you move on and every rejection is giving you that piece of knowledge so I think that it's a little short-sighted to see rejection as failure well and I think I think success is a huge part persistence yeah and I think seeing rejection as failure is implying that the next step we're used to stop right and I think that rejection is part of the stepping stones to getting to yes to get into success Oh dr. Seuss I always have that image in my mind of the I think it was Sam and Dave dig a hole when they're digging and they're digging and they turn around and there's like a sliver of dirt before the giant diamond what's that say yes yes and they keep digging and they keep digging for the diamond but they keep missing this one right around it and then at the end they have the true success but I can't give away the ending really yeah no we're not allowed to do that though so Reid Sam and Dave dig a hole cause it's an amazing picture yes very good book and that's it's a good lesson just to keep digging yeah keep going for that rejection keep going for the no because you have to get

14 thoughts on “Rejection is NOT Failure!

  1. You guys are so motivating. I have honestly binged "listened" while at work. I appreciate your honesty and down to earth approach, which is exactly what writers sometimes need. On this subject of rejections, once an agent has request a full MS and seems interested, then ultimately sends a rejection, is it ever proper to ask why? I would like to know what it is that caused her to turn it down and/or what can be done to edit it. Rejections make you question yourself, your abilities as a writer and your overall MS. It's an icky feeling but viewing them as goals puts things in a different perspective. Thanks so much for this wonderful forum that you offer!

  2. The pill never gets easier to swallow but knowing it's part of the process does help. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Good morning! I have a diversity question for you. I was told by a reputable source (an agent/published author) last year that a publisher wouldn't touch my book if I created my main character's ethnicity different from my own. More specifically, I am white and wanted to make my MG MC mixed-race. I got the idea from my granddaughters who are mixed-race. (black father and white mother) I was told by my source that it would be culturally inappropriate. Is this true? A scorching hot topic for Monday morning! Thanks, Al Monte

  4. Is that "rejections per project" or all over rejections? 🙂

  5. I love your vids, but they're really quiet. I wouldn't normally subscribe to a channel with the volume being so low.

    Could you possibly increase the volume?😆

  6. I actually received a nice rejection this week. She said my query and sample pages were well written and intriguing. She told me that I needed to keep sending it out because there will be an agent who will want it. It was encouraging!

  7. I love Sam and Dave Dig a Hole and so did my students. It’s a great book because Sam and Dave love the adventure they were on even though it didn’t look exactly like they imagined it would be and that is sometimes how our writing journey is. Enjoyed your video. Thanks

  8. This came out so close to me sending queries that it frightens me.

  9. I really appreciate this video! I just started querying and got my first rejection yesterday. I knew it would come and would be the first of many, but is still sucked opening that email!

  10. That is the best NASA logo, by the way. The newer one sucks. Also, nice video.

  11. I try not to see rejection as failure. I generally don't believe in failure but, and it's a big butt (😏), there's a feeling of hopelessness that comes with rejection that feels like failure… Y'know? I got about 100 rejections on my first book. I don't think it's going to be The One, so I'm moving on and up. I have learnt so much from that first process that moving forward feels less scary ♥ thanks for this video you guys!

  12. Personally, I feel like rejections aren't the worse part of the process for a few reasons. 1. there are far worse things that can happen to you and your work; 2. There are a million reasons behind a rejection — and some of them might not have anything to do with you and your story, like personal taste or the market right now; 3. Maybe you're not writing the right pitch and you have to work on that.
    Regardless of the reason, a rejection isn't an excuse to stop. It's a reason to keep working on it.

  13. Thank you for making this video! It's great! I agree.
    The philosophy of counting rejections is described in a Lit Hub article by Kim Liao called "Why You Should Aim for 100 Rejections a Year". I've also seen a similar philosophy in a post on the query tracker blog; that writer said that she had set a goal for a year of "either 12 yeses or 100 nos". That way, as long as she sent at least 111 submissions, she would hit one of those goals.

  14. I do that too lol. I always start with 'so' when speaking. Great advice. Thank you!

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