Rola Alasmar – “In Defense of Being Like Other Girls”


In Defense of Being Like Other Girls. You are 17 years old the first time
the misogynist tells you on the first date that you are not like other girls and naturally, you say thank you. When he tells you how all
his ex-girlfriends were crazy, you gloss over it. You are blinded
by his beauty, a modern day Adonis, so you give him a laugh
and then a blow job. He does not reciprocate
because he is just like other boys. When he tells you he likes a girl
who can eat, you feign a smile and wonder when eating became a defining
personality trait of yours. You wonder if he will still
like a girl who can eat when he no longer likes your body. When he sends you music that he likes, you learn every line by heart
to paint consciousness on canvas, turn the words into your own art. You send him songs back
and he does not listen. When you tell him you are a Libra,
he tells you how astrology is dumb as he wears the jersey
he hasn’t washed in a year and spins around three times
before the game starts because he swears that’s why
his favorite sports team is winning and you’re trying to play it cool but really you’re like,
“That’s so Aquarius of you.” (laughter) And when he tells you he doesn’t want
to fuck you on your period because periods are gross, you remember the shame you felt the first time you bled through your jeans
in the sixth grade, and then he turns on “Seinfeld”
and tells you just to suck his dick. And you wonder how he has
not gotten used to the blood after the countless women he has cut open and you wonder what he meant when he told you that
you were not like other girls. Did he mean that you seemed
naive enough to fall for it? When he tells you your friends
are annoying and laugh too loud, you wonder if he has ever
had the pleasure of genuine company. And the remembrance
of your friends’ laughter, the greatest relic of happiness
in your psyche allows you to grow wings of your own, and you realize that when he told you
his exes were crazy, what he meant was that they were
not charmed by his emotional manipulation. When he sends you music, it’s because
he thinks he discovered Brockhampton. (laughter) When he tells you astrology is dumb, it is because men do not like
what they do not understand. He thinks periods are gross
because he only respects cis-men, he thinks your friends are not funny
because he cannot grasp humor in which racism and homophobia
are not the punchline, and when you finally leave him the punchline is now the hole
he puts in the wall, the only way he knows how to portray his indignation about
how you figured him out and you will be added to the list
of his crazy ex-girlfriends. But you know now that
to be one of them is a compliment. So naturally, you will say thank you. (applause and cheers)

54 thoughts on “Rola Alasmar – “In Defense of Being Like Other Girls”

  1. another great video! if your into poetry I've just started my own channel feel free to take a look and tell me what you think im still new to YouTube

  2. Great wordplay definately nailed it! (Although she was supposed to its her work but you get the idea)

  3. Yessss ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ

  4. she was amazing! one of the best performances i've ever seen!!โœจโ™ฅ๏ธ

  5. Ahh. The stuff about periods, and cis men not reciprocating oral really got me. This gay trans guy is snapping real hard. Way to stand up for yourself and everything that makes you awesome.

  6. What's a better compliment than "You're not like other girls."

    "There's no other girl like you."

  7. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

  8. Hear! Hear! Great for this middle aged and newly dating lady to find!
    Thanks for your thoughts, courage and performance!!!

  9. This gets me heated at the world but glad there is art like this in it

  10. In case anyone needs this:
    Rola Alasmar
    In defense of being like other girls

    Youโ€™re 17 years old the first time the misogynist tells you on the first date, that you are not like other girls. And naturally, you say thank you. When he tells you how all his ex-girlfriends were crazy, you gloss over it. You are blinded by his beauty, a modern day Adonis, so you give him a laugh, and then a blow job. He does not reciprocate, because he is just like other boys. When he tells you he likes a girl, who can eat you feign a smile and wonder, when eating became a defining personality trait of yours. You wonder if he will still like a girl who can eat when he no longer likes your body. When he sends you music that he likes, you learn every single line by heart to paint consciousness on canvas, turn the words into your art. You send him songs back, and he does not listen. When you tell him you are a Libra, he tells you how astrology is dumb, as he wears the jersey he hasnโ€™t washed in a years and spins around three times before the game starts, because he swears thatโ€™s why his favourite sports team is winning. And youโ€™re trying to play it cool, but really youโ€™re like โ€œThatโ€™s so Aquarius if you.โ€ And when he tells you he doesnโ€™t want to fuck you on your period, because periods are gross, you remember the first time you bled through your jeans in the sixth grade. And then he turns on โ€œSeinfeldโ€ and tells you just to suck his dick. And you wonder how he had not gotten used to the blood after the countless women he has cut open. And you wonder what he meant when he told you that you were not like other girls. Did he mean that you seemed naive enough to fall for it? When he tells you your friends are annoying and laugh too loud, you wonder if he has ever had the pleasure of genuine company. And the remembrance of your friendsโ€™ laughter, the greatest relic of happiness in your psyche allows you to grow wings of your own and you realise that when he told you all his exes were crazy, what he meant was that they were not charmed by his emotional manipulation. When he sends you music, itโ€™s because he thinks he discovered Brockhampton . When he tells you astrology is dumb, itโ€™s because men do not like what they do not understand. He thinks periods are gross, because he only respects cis men. He thinks your friends are not funny, because he cannot grasp the humour in which racism and homophobia are not the punchline. And when you finally leave him, the punchline is now the hole he puts in the wall, the only way he knows how to portray his indignation about how you figured him out, and you will be added to the list if his crazy ex-girlfriends. But you know now, that to be one of them is a compliment. So naturally, youโ€™ll say thank you.

  11. YASSSS QUEEEEEEEEN!

    In all seriousness though;
    I love this! This is so amazing!

  12. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

  13. Got damn. I wish the audio was better but sooo many good one-liners:

    "Since when did eating become a personality trait?"

    "Will he like your body after you've gained weight?"

    "He should be used to the blood because of women he's cut open."

    " I told him I'm a Libra. He said, Astrology is stupid. He spins around three times before watching his favorite sport's team games…That's so Aquarius of you." ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

  14. What happened to finger clicking cause wow the crowd is annoying, I can barely hear her.

  15. Such an amazing poem, I was nodding and agreeing to everything as I listened, thank you so much for this work of art

  16. I love the responses and support from the crowd!!!!! I live for that shit!!!!!!

  17. The world is the devil's playground I'm just a lost child playing waiting for my teacher (Jesus)

  18. I generally laughed when she said โ€œthatโ€™s so Aquarius of youโ€

  19. :54 seconds when you hear someone say โ€œEwโ€ made me laugh. But Amen sister!! Your poem, very well said ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผโค๏ธ

  20. All 17 year old girls relate in unison

    This is legit so relatable. The part about no reciprocation whether it is listening to the music you like or performing oral or the astrology bit. Damn. This piece is legendary.

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