The QuitCast: Restorative® – Strengths for Writers (1.20)

dear writer you need to quit this is the show that helps you know what to quit what to keep and what to question my name is Becca Syme and I'm a Gallup certified strength coach with thousands of hours of coaching six and seven-figure offers Nicola stirs major award winners and new authors alike because everyone needs to quit something anyone can tell you what working for them and of course they say that I got work for you but they can't tell you why well I can tell you why welcome to the quick cast hi and welcome to episode 20 today we have one of the keepers or the keep casts where we talk about the results of the Clifton strengths test which is a success metric trying to help people understand how they can stand out and be the most successful so in my coaching program the standout writer strikes four writers we talk about these individual strength themes or the collections of behaviors that you have a higher capacity to potentially standout in how to be better faster and so today we're going to talk about one of the themes it's called restorative the first thing we're gonna do is have Terry and Becca chat a little bit about what we're sort of looks like and don't forget because it's the middle of June we have strengths for writers coaching cohorts that are starting so check out those links in the show notes and take it away Terry and Becca on restorative so if you think of the word restore right in restorative people who have a restore restorative want to see things be restored so they see problems and problem areas and they want to fix the problem so they want to so people with higher sort of excel at fixing broken things so we sort of will often take on like an actual physical manifestation like they like to physically fix things like they sometimes like to take machines apart and put them back together or fix cars or a lot of high restore tubes are very physically restorative and then what it pairs with can because it's fixing broken relationships like I know hi restoratives who are therapists I know hi restoratives who are pastors and then of course restorative has some great capacities for writing as well well yeah absolutely I'm just gonna say if we're writing would be huge because you can then because much of a story is helping fix a broken person or broken plots or ideas yeah so they can see answers where people other non reserves would not necessarily yeah hi restorative tend to have a very quick thinking capacity to diagnose what's wrong with something and so they tend to not want to let problems just sit there which is can be a big benefit in and they call this sort of like the medical diagnostic kind of capacity where like I see what's wrong but I want to fix it like restorative isn't just critical it's actually I want to bring restoration to something restoratives will usually commit to what it takes to fixing the problem like they'll jump in and really get to be a part of the process instead of just being critical and kind of saying like oh you need to fix that and you're wrong in this and that's bad they're very participatory because of course we're sort of as an executing strength and so they actually want to get in and fix things I think as a writer like there are some real benefits to having high restorative restoratives tend to have a really easy time with character arcs because they can see what it'll take to change somebody from where they are to where they're gonna end up right and so one of the cool things about having high restorative is that you really have a concept of what transformation looks like and I think that's partly because restoratives know just kind of innately that in order to fix something you have to break it right so and you have to know where it's broken and how it's broken and then apply the right method of fixing in order to repair it or restore it one of the exciting things about how ressort of works is that as a strength theme it can have a lot of different applications to writing and so we have three very different writers with us today a couple of them are number one restoratives and so but they all have it in their top five and so you can see the benefit of having this strength very high in your mix and we're gonna start off by introducing the three of them and then we'll get into the talk show itself so Casey Klein is a multi award-winning author of dystopian science fiction and romance she has 13 novels under her belt right now and she is a number three restorative Jen Rasmussen is a she would say a zero award-winning but she's a great writer a writer of epic fantasy as jr. Rasmussen and she is a number one restorative and our third author is Tammy Labrecque who you might know from newsletter ninja which I recommend a lot and which you can find on Amazon it's a great nonfiction book and interestingly Tammy used her restorative when she came up with that book because she saw a problem that authors were having and decided to write a book to help fix that problem and so what a great example of how to use the restorative strength as a writer in your platform Tammy also writes other things she has some pen names that are secret and some that aren't will let you check out everyone's website to tell more about their specific books but for right now I want to get into the strikes for writers talk show where we talk about how this problem solving and this restoration skill can work for you in your writing so we're sort of will be problem-solving everything though I mean like if you see that the sink is broken if you see that the you know like any any problem that you see and then you'll wanna fix it so like a lot of restoratives will kind of have this question mark of like well you're you see the problem why don't you want to fix it Sandman so I don't necessarily want to fix problems when I see them and I could sort of write all you guys are like yeah so I want to hear a little bit about how you filter for sort of like when you read about it or when you think about it and let's start with Tammy like how would you explain restorative to someone in your own words okay so for me the way that it manifests is very much I do not actually practice restorative techniques very well on my own issues that's kind of an interesting blind spot there where it manifests for me is in wanting to help other people solve problems not even just that I can but that I feel very uncomfortable if I know how to help somebody with a problem and they don't want my help that is that absolutely kills me I know Jen used to be a project manager she has a little bit of this too um cuz sometimes I'll just say something about what a hot mess I am and she's like you could try a blonde to the point where I get really mad when they don't listen to me I have friends and they'll say oh I have this problem and I'm like well here's how you can fix it and they're like I don't do that yeah Wow um so I very much the way that I often put it to other people is I've been spending on like the last two years making other people millionaires because I'm just constantly doing coaching and teaching and then I wrote ninja because needed to solve that problem for the author community and it really really bothers me if I can't help think I need to probably have fewer friends yeah I mean that would definitely help friends a millionaire just for the record so what you need is more friends at the right fund one it's really interesting that you put it that way about like seeing a problem I'm feeling compelled to solve it and part of that from restorative is because you can see how it can be solved and like not everyone I mean it like I said it can come from other places sometimes but not everyone sees that ability to like what could it look like if it was whole what could it like look like if it was fixed my situation is obviously not nearly as important I'm not saving any lives but I've heard actually doctors say the same thing if they say something is hurting how could they not fix it and that's for me I see someone having a problem with the thing and it's super easy I know what you should do and then I start running my mouth Jen what about you how would you explain restorative to someone I think restorative helps me be kind of selectively persistent because I'm not afraid to tear everything down I'm all I enjoy rebuilding I enjoy transformation so if something's not working you know sometimes you can spot fix problems and that's great sometimes you guys scorch the earth to start over a lot of people are afraid to do that and I don't think I am I think what something's not working and I know it can't be fixed I'm ready to just break it down and build it back up again yeah yeah Casey are hotting does that resonate you know I have a lot of and I did I paired down my friends because it got to wait that I would spend just days thinking of ways I can fix their problems and make their life better but you know they couldn't work that doesn't go doesn't come across really well a lot of people kind of get irritated when you tell him like listen just listen to me I had a funny story that just talks about restorative so I have two teenage girls and we were just talking about parenting and so basically my girls came to me and they said mom when we come to you with our problems we are not asking for advice and the only time that we're going to ask for advice is if it's in written form and notarized and then you can advise us but other than that you just have to feel like everything I was like I know how to fix it like we don't so anyways that kind of sums it all up Jen you mentioned the word transformation and I just want to highlight that that I'm sure teri and I talked about this quite a bit in that in the talk show that we did but one of the hallmarks of restorative for writers is that they tend to be very good at transformation arts like they they like to take people who are broken or who are missing something or who have a wound and to transform that person through the process of this you know fiction story which is really I mean and I'm sure all the restoratives would agree with this is really what fiction is to a certain extent is the story of transformation so how do you see the restorative and let's start with Casey first how do you see your restorative and your writing that's a great question and I have to sit down and think about it because I do feel like it comes very natural to me as far as trying to fix people's problems but in my contemporary romances basically my total crack is about like Redemption so my whole thing is trying to make this one character have such a huge flaw or mistake or something and then like I push the envelope because that's what I do and then try over the course of the story – like redeem them to make the reader be like that was a horrible mistake and but I do feel for them you know I can see how they've grown and I you know can see where they came from so that is you know when they talk about tropes and like well where's the redemption true body's a trope though rejection is absolutely true and in fact so Casey wrote a book where there are twin brothers and at the very beginning of the book the heroine sleeps with the wrong twin brother and so like that's a huge arc right of like redemption for her which which was really really well got like in my opinion I thought it was really well done because you feel and again that's that empathy right but like you feel for her at the beginning of that and how what how broken that relationship is and then what ends up happening in the end and of course I won't spoil it for anybody but definitely I do I would agree with that I think you excel at taking people who are not people you would think yeah that you would want to root for and that would be like I think I like this person as you know I think absolutely and then like in my sci-fi it's it's a little bit bigger it's more world-building I mean just talking about like you know overthrowing the evil empire I mean oh my gosh and if one person can inspire rebellion that reason inspires a revolution that overturned the evil society I mean fix all the problems like I can't get enough so also your crash that's a cure for your sci-fi yeah what about you how do you see we're sort of and you're writing I think I use it more in the process versus inside my stories I think it's really good for editing I think you can spot where the weak points are as you're you know doing your revision and you can see where it's sagging and how to shore it up I think it's good for spot and weak spot I think yeah yeah I agree like high restoratives tend to be good editors and I've seen this with Casey also and I'll say with Jenn as well like when you see an area in your manuscript it's hard not to focus your time there what you know like this isn't right yet it hasn't been pushed you where it could be yeah which means that it might take a little more time to get through that process but it'll be worth it right for the Huayra sort of writer yeah Tami what about you where do you see restorative in your writing so in my writing I actually see it very similarly to Casey in that I like to write about flawed people that becomes problematic when I'm writing in contemporary romance because it's a bit of an acquired taste for people actually I started writing kind of in terms of romance when I was reading like in the mid-2000s I was reading a lot of like Chiclets right like Emily Giffen and Jennifer I think it's Weiner whiner I don't know um characters that sparked out like maybe even a little bit difficult to like and watch them go through this transformative art well so I put out my first romance and y'all can go read the reviews if you like it's under my own name um people are problem with that right Tara hating her throw her under a bus I wanted to slap her he's so perfect what's wrong with her and I was like listen imperfect people deserve love too when you look at your marketing or your business how many of you guys utilize this kind of language and maybe Tammy I know you do because I've seen your newsletter ninja marketing and stuff like that and so I know that you utilize that when you talk to people about it do you find yourself using restorative language absolutely um and I think that that's probably anybody who markets nonfiction well will do that because that's what nonfiction is oh you have a problem here's how I can solve it um not as easy necessarily when you're trying to market fiction because the problem is I need a book to read and that is really not a problem um so yeah nonfiction super easy that's exactly how I do it with ninja oh you're having trouble low open rates I can I can help you with that yeah go from there yep yeah that's very that's a very good point in fact when they talk to you about marketing nonfiction they actually tell you like you need to listen to the language of your target audience and what they're telling you they have a problem with that's the key way to market nonfiction and just those of you who are listening to this who don't have high restorative if you know someone who has we're sort of who can easily see these kinds of problems this is a really easy way to help yourself with marketing is talk to somebody who knows how to talk in this kind of language you see what about you do you use your redemption Arc language in your blurbs you know I'm now that you're saying that I probably should I guess when I do my pitch I do more like The Handmaid's Tale for science fiction but we finally get to the rebellion right because that's the biggest thing that tries to be crazy about that show I'm like okay we see it's bad skip to the restorative part there's no restorative that's why you wrote your book I use it a lot I think I use it in in my marketing and because like we've talked about you can see where the weak links are in the chain and when you pull it back you're like oh I can just fix this but then when you pull the curtain back it's like oh you know there's four other five other you know problems that you need to fix I think where it is also helped me to is I don't know if you guys feel the same way but because I have high restorative I don't have a lot of emotion attached to someone telling me that I need to fix something so even in my writing people were really surprised like wow you moved so fast with your writing because I didn't sit there when I was first starting and and defend it because I'm like oh it's a problem of course it needs to be fixed there's no right or wrong there's no judgment call on it and I think that kind of helps even with you know running campaign ads and you know that kind of stuff there's not I don't have this judgment well they should like it because I like it or whatever the judgement is it's like oh there's a problem totally we can fix it so yeah so whenever we talk to people who have a hard time and Tammy use the word precious which i think is a perfect word like being precious with something means that your biggest priority is the preservation of the thing or your biggest priority is the preservation of your ego or the preservation of your will or the preservation of your emotions for the president you know whatever it is everybody has a biggest priority when it comes to receiving feedback when you have high restored if your biggest priority is wholeness and so of course you're gonna take it that way but that but that's the why I think a lot of people would say I wrote the book I wrote but I and I'm hearing from kc2 are instead like oh the book is broken well then let's fix it then I I never assumed no matter what how many times I've written the book that it doesn't need to be fixed ever and I think when we wrote together Becka I think I probably took the longest to edit I mean I I just I listened to it you know literally verbatim as it talked to me I mean I have a very long edit process is why I don't publish so much but when I finally do I'm like okay this is the best book I could have written at the time like I could honestly you know before God and all the Apostles basically this was the best book I could do at this time yeah and yeah there's no shame and you know having a different you know skill set from book one to book thirteen or book twenty but to say that at this time this was as best as I could write so I would say from talking to Jen as much as I do I'm pointing cuz she's over there for me oh me Vincent she is awful not her shoulder at all times it's one of the qualities that's really obvious about her is the not being precious she'll just bust into chat and go I just realized that the whole like 12,000 words I just wrote are garbage so I grew them out because I have to do it differently and there's never any like oh no or what will I do or she's just like so I threw him out and I'm gonna figure yeah actually having that quality I think for people who are looking for how do I fix that part of myself who have a middle restorative or maybe a top ten but not top fiber sort of and are looking for a way to help to be less precious with it is to intentionally foster this attitude of what's more important is the wholeness is the fixing of the problems and so part of understanding the strengths is also knowing who to partner with if this is something that you struggle with or that you don't have to know who to ask and what to look for what kind of language people might use if they have these things is really important to be able to consider when we're making other decisions and again the whole core concept of my platform is helping us be better decision-makers and on that note I want to say there's a couple of coaching cohorts that are coming up this month remember if you are more interested in strikes for writers as a program everything that I do with strengths is individual one-on-one work and so we have these cohorts the startup regularly so that I can kind of funnel everyone into the one-on-ones at the same time so there's no class discussion per se but it's all one on strengths coaching so if you're interested please do check out the links in the show notes for now I want to say thank you so much for being here it's always a pleasure to have you watching the quick cast please do like comment subscribe share check out the authors that we've seen today and I hope that you'll join us on the next quick cast you

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  1. I kind of am chewing on the idea that instead of bemoaning my excessively bossy, critical internal editor, I simply have a "restorative" one who is into fixing things. (I have to chunk my personality out into personas. There's probably a diagnosis for this.)

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