“Try Again.. Fail Again.. FAIL BETTER!” – Peter Dinklage – Top 10 Rules


– I waited a long time out in the world before I gave myself permission to fail. You need a time in your
life right after college to suffer a little bit
to keep you on your toes. I think it’s not so
good to live in the past or have the clarity of the past. I’m guilty of being a dwarf. – Hello, Believe Nation. I’m Evan Carmichael. My one word is believe and I believe that entrepreneurs are going to solve all of the major
problems of the world. So to help you on your journey,
today we’re going to learn from Game of Thrones
actor, Peter Dinklage, and my take on his top
ten rules for success. Rule number one is my personal favorite and I’d love to know which
one you guys like the best. And as always, guys, as you’re watching, if you hear something that
really resonates with you, please leave it down
in the comments below. Put quotes around it so
other people can be inspired and when you write it down, it’s much more likely to
stick for yourself, as well. Enjoy. (uplifting music) – When I was 29, I told myself
the next acting job I get, no matter what it pays,
I will, from now on, for better or worse, be a working actor. So I quit my position at the Professional Examination Services. (audience laughing) My friends really weren’t happy about that because it was so easy to
find me when I worked there. Work was the only place
that I had the internet. This was at the beginning of the internet. (audience laughing) And now I didn’t have
the either the internet or a cell phone or a job. (audience laughing) But something good happened. I got a low-paying theater job in a play called Imperfect Love, which led to a film called 13
Moons with the same writer, which led to other roles,
which led to other roles. And I’ve worked as an actor ever since. (audience cheering) But I didn’t know that would happen. At 29, walking away from data processing, I was terrified. Ten years in a place without heat, six years at a job I felt stuck in, maybe I was afraid of change. Are you? My parents didn’t have much money, but they struggled to send
me to the best schools. And one of the most important
things they did for me, and graduates, maybe you
don’t want to hear this, is that once I graduated, I was on my own. Financially it was my turn. (audience applauding) Parents are applauding, graduates are not. (audience laughing) But this made me very hungry, literally. (audience laughing) I couldn’t be lazy. Now I’m totally lazy, but
back then I couldn’t be. And so at 29 and at very long last, I was in the company of
the actors, and writers, and directors I had sought
out that first year, that first day after school. I was, I am, by their sides. Raise the rest of your life to meet you. Don’t search for defining moments because they will never come. The world might say you
are not allowed to yet. I waited a long time out in the world before I gave myself permission to fail. Please don’t even bother asking, don’t bother telling
the world you are ready. Show it. Do it. What did Beckett say? Ever tried, ever failed, no matter. Try again, fail again, fail better. – I’m a writer so I’m kind of curious. What type of scripts do
you get coming your way that you’re tired of? – Originality, I know that’s a very, but without it being aware
that it’s being original. A lot of scripts are
trying to be very original and that they’re so self-aware. I think we’re living
nowadays in a meta society and we can’t help ourselves in that. And I think a lot of it manifests a lot in scripts that I read. Like they’re, Charlie
Kaufman, for example, he came into this world
and he wrote those movies and since Charlie, people have tried to be like Charlie’s movies, you know. They’ve sort of tried to follow that form. But it’s not their own, it’s Charlie’s. And sort of follow your
own, take your own path, write what’s true to you and no one else, and then it will be wholly original. That’s what I look for. – When you grew older,
you moved to Brooklyn and in those days, Brooklyn was Brooklyn. – Yeah.
– It’s different now. – Williamsburg in the early nineties. – What was your life like over there? – Terrible.
– Really? (audience laughing) – Yeah. Well, I think you need a time in your life right after college to suffer a little bit to keep you on your toes. But I remember I had this apartment that didn’t have any heat. None of them ever had any heat back then. We put up plastic on the
windows in the winter. Sort of like in here. – [David Letterman] Yeah. (laughing) – I want to go into the future. I think this, I don’t know
if I would use this machine or relive any memories. I think it’s sort of, can be distractive. That’s my take away from it. I don’t know. You would.
– I would, yeah. I would use the machine, yeah. – I’m with you, I’m with you. – Yeah, it’s just interesting, yeah. Would you use it? – I think it’s not so
good to live in the past or have the clarity of the past. You should romanticize it. That’s what we do. It’s storytelling. – [Interviewer] But Peter,
this is the last season of Game of Thrones. Like, there’s nothing you would miss? Or you have a favorite memory of that? – Ah, you got to move on. You got to move on! No, it’s all about, it’s all moving on. It’s all about moving on. – You have people taking pictures, especially in a place like this. They just, they want
the proof of a memory, but they don’t actually
experience something to remember. It’s sort of strange,
“Can I have your picture?” And they don’t really meet you or it’s just this sort of
thing that happening now. It’s replacing an experience,
a memory they will have. Instead it’s just a memory of a photo. And I’m sure you start to apply your own memory to that photo and change the events
and how they went down. – What is the most important lesson that you have learned in
your course as professionals? – I think with the
culture we live in today, the internet and web, and
things, and the twitter, and the gobbler, and the (gibberish). You know, I think part of
the reason why Marlon Brando is who Marlon Brando was, why he was, probably yes, to me,
the greatest actor ever, because we didn’t really
know too much about him when he was younger and that
left it very mysterious. So we were able to get lost
in his characters more. But nowadays, there’s so much knowledge of everybody’s personal life
that you sort of can’t get lost in the characters they play. So my professional thing that I’ve, is just to shut up and less is more. – Time and again we find that
we have an innermost trend of going back to basics. Because today people
complain that we have been insulated for too long
by digital technology, too many special effects. We want to, you know, to have more real human
characters in the movie. What do you think? – Well, yeah. I mean, I kind of don’t understand. I mean, films from the Far
East have always done it, that I have seen, why
can’t an action movie also be very heartbreaking and personal? Why can’t a horror film be very dramatic? I feel like and sometimes
in America we get trapped by our genres
and we don’t overlap. And I think that’s unfortunate. And something like this, which has such science-fiction
elements to it, it also is a very deeply personal film for a lot of these characters and very dramatic and very
sad and heartbreaking. You get very emotional
watching a film like this. And you sort of forget
that you’re watching a big summer blockbuster film. I think it’s, I find it kind of sad that that’s somewhat surprising because writing has gotten
so, sort of, formulaic. Especially, I think, sorry, in television. But you just got to push the envelope and challenge people’s expectations and ideas of what’s going to happen next. And I think we do that. And I think that adds to
the addiction of the show. You never know what’s around the corner. Well, she’s beautiful. All awards mean is that
it’s the people are, it’s just great. In other words, you know,
people loved what you did and that’s always means
well, it means good. Actors, I think, need a lot
of confirmation (laughs) for what they do. I think that’s why we have
all these award shows. It’s just a movie we made
for no money in 20 days and it just feels good to get recognized for something like that, you know. We made the movie for
half a million dollars and we struggled to get it made. And it’s found an audience, which we didn’t know it was going to find. You know, it’s a very personal movie. Tom McCarthy, the writer
director, it’s his first film and he wrote it for the three lead actors and then Miramax bought
the film at Sundance about a year and a half ago. So it’s been great. It’s been a crazy ride. – I saved you. I saved this city and
all your worthless lives. I should have let Stannis kill you all. (jeering) – Tyrion, do you wish to confess? – Yes, father, I’m guilty. Guilty, is that what you want to hear? – You admit you poisoned the king? – No, of that I’m innocent. I’m guilty of a far more monstrous crime. I’m guilty of being a dwarf. – You are not on trial for being a dwarf. – Oh, yes I am. I’ve been on trial for
that my entire life. – Have you nothing to say in your defense? – Nothing but this, I did not do it. I did not kill Joffrey,
but I wish that I had. Watching your vicious bastard die gave me more relief than
a thousand lying whores. I wish I was the monster you think I am. I wish I had enough poison
for the whole pack of you. I would gladly give my life
to watch you all swallow it. – Sir Meryn, Sir Meryn, escort the prisoner back to his cell. – I will not give my
life for Joffrey’s murder and I know I’ll get no justice here. So I will let the gods decide my fate. I demand a trial by combat. (dramatic music) (crowd yelling) – Thank you guys so much for watching. I made this video because
Roderick asked me to. So if there’s a famous entrepreneur that you want me to profile next, check out the link in the description and go and cast your vote. I also want to give a quick
shout out to Imran Dean. Imran, thank you so much
for picking up a copy of my book, Your One Word and posting that awesome
picture on Instagram. I really, really appreciate the support and I’m glad that you enjoyed the read. So thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love. I’ll see you soon. – [Interviewer] Your
career, when I look at some of the roles you’ve had in the past, the break out role people
role people describe as being in the movie The
Station Agent a while back. Even a big budget film like Elf, where you played a very, sort of, pugnacious children’s publisher. If that is an accurate description. – [Peter Dinklage] Yes. – [Interviewer] It seems
like you’ve managed to find the roles that upend whatever those stereotypes might be. – [Peter Dinklage] Yeah,
well I try to, you know. And I’m not always successful at it. You do have to make a living. And I do not fault anyone
else who makes choices to play characters that they
wish they hadn’t agreed to do. ‘Cause at the end of the day, none of us are happy with
our jobs all the time. But I just sort of, I
had some perseverance, in terms of what I wanted to do and what I didn’t want to do. And I think no is a very
powerful word in our business that is very hard to use
early on in your career. But I also think I was pretty
arrogant when I was younger. So I use that word, maybe too much, but it also helped me
with the finding roles that I did like. – [Interviewer] What was the
first time you stood on stage and thought, I want to act and
this the only thing I want to do? – [Peter Dinklage] Oh,
it was so many years ago. I don’t remember. – [Interviewer] Oh, you’re
a baby, give me a break. (laughing) – [Peter Dinklage] Oh, I think a lot of us are just little hams when we’re children and it just starts that way. But, you know, my mom’s
a music school teacher and kid’s would come in, it was a revolving door
policy at our house, growing up in New Jersey, where piano lessons were given
all day throughout the day, and my brother and I would
be putting on puppet shows down in the basement, and constructing these elaborate sets, and putting on these shows
for all the octogenarians of the neighborhood… (laughing) that were kind enough to pay a nickel. – [Interviewer] So the arts was sort of, this was something in
your background already. – [Peter Dinklage] It just
came at an early age, yeah. I don’t know when it starts. When you trace it back to
when you were a little child, you can’t really remember this big moment. I think it’s a lot of
little moments that build up into something that just forms who you are and your need to be an actor. – Can you just catch me up
on what’s happened so far in the first few seasons
of Game of Thrones? – What? We got a minute. – We’ve got 45 seconds now. – Stabby, stabby, stabby, stabby. Sexy, sexy, sexy, stabby, stabby, stabby. Beautiful, beautiful language and beautiful scenes of poetry and musing on the world as we know
it in King’s Landing and then a couple jokes. (laughing) And more stabby, stabby. (laughing) (making sound effects) I think one brother, sister
(making sound effects). – Wait, what’s that? What’s that mean? (making sound effects) They were having parties,
like a tea party? – Yeah, they’re going, “Look at my fingers in a circle. “Look at that.” – Sounds good.
– Yeah, man.

82 thoughts on ““Try Again.. Fail Again.. FAIL BETTER!” – Peter Dinklage – Top 10 Rules

  1. Such an awesome video, love Peter Dinklage! Can't wait for episode 4 of GofT 😛

  2. I didn't know Peter Dinklage was so full of awesome advice. He makes me think back on what I used to do as a kid. My favorite game was to manage businesses. All the neighborhood kids would get involved and we'd play Restaurant or Movies. I even made fake paper money, menus and sold cups of pop and popped popcorn. I think I learned then that being your own boss is way more fun.

  3. Hi Evan. Thank you for all the value I get out of your content. I love seeing the subs go up a few thousand every day. Your hustle is paying off. I've noticed that you do a great job mentioning your book, but it took me something like 100 videos before I actually checked and saw the link in the description to find out about it. I think you have a great opportunity to say 2 or 3 sentences at the end of each video about the book's audience and its benefits. Keep up the great work!

  4. #BTA1 "Experience the moment" I know EXACTLY what he is talking about! In 2001 I found myself at the Golden Globes where I got to experience a moment with George Clooney. THANK GOD that I didn't have a camera or materials for an autograph. I simply got to be present. AMAZING. I will never forget it.

  5. One of the best lists. Mentioning some things, nobody ever talks about.

  6. What are you waiting for ? Do what you love and get better by making mistakes ! On the way there'll come new ideas, opportunities, events & persons into your life you couldn't have foreseen in the beginning 🙂 ! Fine video, Evan, Number 1 for me, too !!!

  7. "give yourself permission to fail" now thats what you call living totally in the present! Much love to you to Mr Dinklage and awesome channel evan!

  8. "Don't bother telling the world you are redy. Show it. Do it." !!!! #BTA34 <3

  9. From the get-go of his speech starting from 1:05 of this video, I got the sense that Peter was being heartfelt and serious. I was listening intently, but got distracted by so many people laughing. I wondered, "Why the hell are these people laughing?! He's not being funny-ha-ha, dammit! Pay attention! He's being serious! He's being inspirational!" But the crowd laughed all the way through to the end of that segment (around 4:40). What the hell is wrong with people that they can't distinguish inspirational from funny?!

  10. "If at first you don't succeed; try again – and fail again – but this time, fail BETTER"

  11. I fucking love Peter Dinklage. He is a great guy and he is just pure inspiration to me. Much respect to this AWESOME man!

  12. One of my favorite actors. He is the heart and soul of Game of Thrones.

  13. do you know about goodyear? he tried, he failed, jailed, tried again, failed again ,tried again, failed again, tried again.. and extremely succeed

    i mean other people are earn his succeed. he died before succeed.

  14. My favorites are, fail better, struggle your way to success, embrace suffering and don't live in the past.

  15. It's what we do that defines us in the end.
    I think that I might have overthink too much about what I wanted to do in life. And know I feel that the mistake was not thinking on what I want to do in life and improving each day but rather just not doing it.

    My passion is being on stage doing comedy shows, dancing, playing a character. Films to share to billions that I will create and play in.

    All that to inspire myself and people not waiting till we died before we trully lived by achieving our wildest dreams and goals.

    I am sure it's quite a reason to go achieve all those things one goal at a time 😉

    Thanks Evan for the inspiration.

  16. "take your own path, write whats true to you and no one else. Then it will be holy original."
    trying to replicate others will not make you successful.

  17. Why haven't I founf this channel before? <3
    Thank you so much for this content Evan!

  18. "raise your life to meet you…don't bother asking the world,show it, DO IT" – P. Dinklage

  19. Evan! Something different about you man! I like it! Intensity and magnetism increasing

  20. This man has a wealth of knowledge and I'm letting my brain morph into a sponge and soak it all in.

  21. try again, and never fail.. follow your own path… what is your's and….. be original… is not good to live in the past.. move on… that's all about… The people want a proof of the fact were here, but they do not really experience it…

  22. From point one, "fail better": "Raise the rest of your life to meet you. Don't search for defining moments, because they will never come." Waiting for our own life is the worst thing we can do. Enjoy and use the moment as a growth.

  23. Man that scene… THAT SCENE!! When he is on trial on GoT…Holy crap! Blew me away when I first saw it and it still does. Such perfect acting in such a small gap of time. It will always be one of the best dialog delivered on screen I have ever seen. Its like it gives you strength or something too. Very awesome

  24. Great !! The bonus helped me for something better. "In initial time of your journey to success it's difficult to say no to any opportunity, but it helps to find you the perfect role you wish to play in your life". Choose the word wisely. Small but powerful "NO".

  25. no is a powerful word but it help him found roles that he liked …….interesting.it makes me think of the concept of delay what it's true intention in one's life

  26. I loved the last part of this video. It made me want to watch that episode of game of thrones

  27. "I'm weaving this together for you. Take actions based on faith. Decide on your dream. Follow your own path to that dream. Embrace that there will be challenges along the way. There would be challenges anyway. Do not relive the past or you will miss out on the joy of the moment. Enjoy each new learning experience. Fall down and get back up on the horse and one day you will ride like a champion. Challenge yourself to do better and it will keep your life growing and exciting. Persist until you make it, no matter what happens."

  28. Trial by combat was a mistake! Especially when the Vipers head popped like an overipe tomato!

  29. Same types of experiences that Bobby Cannavale has spoken about. Watch. The Station Agent. With both of these wonderful actors in it.

  30. "If there is one thing in life that is true then it is the fact that life is cruel. It takes from us everything in the end but the one thing that dose not have to be cruel is you. Be better than life can be to your friends to strangers your family and most important yourself."

  31. Dont bother to tell the world that you are ready. Do it. Show it.
    This is my favourite one.

  32. "raise your life to meet you. Don't wait for defining moments because they won't come"

  33. "Don't search for defining moments because they will never come. The world might say you are not allowed to yet." Don't bother asking, or telling the world you ready… Show it and do it!

  34. "Be Mysterious"". Thanks Evan Carmichael. I'm a senior citizen writing from India, & sorry I've not seen the Game of Thrones but did view Dinklage's address to a Class of Bennington. All 10 points are great but the ability to work alone without feedback; the ability to overcome the need to cling to love or lay one's head on a shoulder and so on; I think are all encapsulated in the tiny phrase ''Be Mysterious". Thanks for this wonderful presentation.

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