Zen e os relacionamento: Monja Coen at TEDxVilaMadaSalon

Translator: Theresa Ranft
Reviewer: Leonardo Silva I think that the best way
to present monk Coen is through a story which involved us. Once, during a conversation, I asked, “How can a person overcome the pain
from the loss of a loved one?” She looked at me in a very serene way, our conversation was very peaceful. She said, “Look, Lauro,
I lost my father not long ago, it was a very painful experience,
as it is for everyone. So how do we deal
with this kind of situation? We have to try to give life
to this life, in our lives.” I thought this phrase was very beautiful, not only by what it teaches us,
but also by the way she told it. It became clear to me that monk Coen
is a person who, as she talks, what she talks about is what she lives. Of course, what she’s going
to talk about in her speech today are things that she has experienced,
that she manifests in her own life. That’s who she is, someone who helps us
give life to our own lives. So I’d like to invite
monk Coen to the stage. Thank you, Lauro. Give life to our lives. This topic we’re doing
about relationships is interesting, constructive relationships. I remember a Japanese saying: “If we have relationships,
it’s possible to do.” And the saying said,
“If there are no relationships, I leave, I don’t do.” And then a Japanese Zen master said, “No, if there are relationships, I do. If there are no relationships,
then I build relationships.” For me, this is more important. How do we build relationships in situations which apparently
don’t matter to us? But they do matter,
because everything matters to us, because we’re the life of the universe. We’re the life of the Earth,
we’re not separated. We’re one family, the human species. There are so many
different species in a garden, but if we look around we can see that we all belong
to the same biological species. What does that mean? It means we can have relationships
with anyone on this planet, and our fruit will be fertile. This means, biologically, a species. So there is no separation. It’s more than this. What have I learned
while on this Zen path? There is no inside or outside. We have the custom of saying,
“These people are inside my circle, and those others are outside it.” There is no inside or outside. Is it possible to think
beyond the binary system? Is it possible to go beyond and realize that we are
one body, one life, with everything that exists here? I started my journey when I was born, before I was born, maybe. Where did my life begin? Where does life begin? When does it end? How did I become a monk? How did I become a Zen Buddhist? I used to be a journalist. Among the various things
I’ve done in my life I became a journalist,
and I worked for “Jornal da Tarde,” an extinct newspaper. It was an incredible experience interviewing people
from of all parts of Brazil, from all social levels; recognizing in each person
a human being very similar to me, who wants to be happy,
who wants to feel included, who wants to be involved. This opened channels of perception, about the social environment
in which I lived, about my family. I was told to press this thing. Wow, that’s too much! Again! I don’t know… I don’t know how to press this thing. Here we are, OK! Here it is – Buddha and his disciples. Who were my family? I came from a middle-class family. I studied in state schools. State schools are so important! At that time, state schools
were the best schools in the city. “Instituto de Educação
Caetano de Campos” school. We had disabled students in our classroom. We knew how to deal with people
who came from completely different areas, who were our colleagues, our friends. My best friend’s father was a driver, in the days when there were
trams in the city. He was so different from my father who was
a financial secretary for the government. We were always together, we played together with no care
about our differences. This had an effect on my life. My mother was a poet, she liked poetry. The first poem I learned,
when I couldn’t yet read, was called “Moleque Bacurau.” It told the story
about the death of a black boy, who was ignored by white people. My first introduction
to social positioning was when I was six years old. The other poem was called
“O Crime de Hoje,” about a boy who sold newspapers. His father was a murderer,
and this was the crime of the day. His father had been arrested,
but the boy couldn’t read [the paper]. Those first poems spoke about life,
about social differences. And what can we do? The papers? We were living in a time
of military dictatorship and we wanted social change. Many friends and colleagues of mine
were killed, arrested, or went into hiding. I wrote an article
about alternative societies. What was the alternative? What alternatives did I see? It wasn’t armed combat,
that became very clear to me. My father once said to me, “Be like Galileo Galilei.” He didn’t give up his idea. Do you think the Earth doesn’t move? It doesn’t move; yet, it does! (Laughter) And he wasn’t killed for that. That sense that there is nothing
to kill or be killed for, but there is to live for. To live is to transform. Our lives can be a major transformation. Distressing newspaper stories,
a lot of crime, a lot of terrorism, friends on both sides were killed. It made no difference to me if someone followed
this or that political tendency. These were people who I knew and liked. And then I thought,
“There must be an alternative.” I was given a book by Trotsky. Trotsky says that revolution
has to be international. The book was very small, it was about someone
who took power by force and that after some time,
having killed everybody, his group of colleagues, his ministers, began to be just as corrupt
as the previous ones. And my view was that it’s not just
an international issue, it’s an internal issue. It’s a matter of us changing internally
from our vantage point, this way of seeing life on Earth, this way of perceiving a connection
to everything that exists. I took drugs, I was arrested
and spent some time in Sweden, in a wonderful prison in Sweden. I left prison saying, “No one controls me,
I’m going to keep on taking drugs!” And then suddenly I thought,
“Hold on, I don’t need this.” What did I learn in Sweden,
alone in a cell? Meditation. I’d wake up early and do the “Om”
which is the basic sound of the universe. How delightful that was! Before the cell doors were opened
I’d sit there quietly and listen to the birds
awakening, and I’d chant “Oooooommmmmmmmm” and feel connected
to everything that exists. I left the prison and returned to Brazil. I was given books on meditation,
since I was interested in that. I felt a connection to a master
in India, it was fascinating! There was one color for each chakra and each color was connected
to this master in India. How beautiful! But I was still angry, I’d slam the door, I’d get irritated very easily. I noticed that The Beatles, for example, – how I loved those boys – they had this enviable capacity
for mass communication, and they meditated. There were those monks in the Vietnam War. It was amazing! The magazine covers at that time, there were three magazines then,
the newsstands were very small. The top three magazine covers at that time
showed a monk covered in flames. He sat in meditation, poured gasoline over his body
and burned himself. I thought, “What kind
of self-control is that?” Because I wanted control,
control over me, not over the world. How could I be less angry,
less sad, less unhappy? Would this change the world too? So I started to follow this path. I went to live in the United States,
and I read a book about alpha brain waves. They say we’re in alpha when we meditate. Was it alpha what I was doing? Instead of looking
for a psychology center, I looked for a Zen master. I entered the house of the Zen master,
and I knew I had found my place, because they practiced meditation
with the eyes open. There’s no inside and outside. I don’t need to close one of my senses to connect with the essence of being,
which is inside me and inside everyone. I’d sit down with them. I wanted to sit in the lotus position,
but my legs couldn’t do it. At that time, I was learning
classical ballet, three hours a day
and five hours at the weekends. I weighed 47 kg,
with hair down to my waist. I began to cut my hair, and I very happily started to gain weight. (Laughter) I gave up my ballet classes
and started to exchange, exchange the pain that is often felt
in ballet practices, for the displeasure that can be felt
in sitting meditation. But to get in contact
with the physical pain which you can transform
with conscious breathing; to get in contact with life’s pain, with a history of so many abuses
that I too had gone through, and then to suddenly have no grudges, but just recognize this as a part of me,
which is the tapestry of my life. Because if all this hadn’t happened,
I wouldn’t be here now talking to you. And being here with you now
is very important, because our life is whole,
here where we are. It’s not in the before or the after, but the before and the after
build this present moment. And this is the best thing of all, because we can speak, see and hear. And those people we know who maybe cannot speak, see, or hear – they can feel. And those who cannot even feel
can somehow perceive something. Life is never-ending, like our minds, never-ending and bright, it doesn’t stop for one moment. People come and ask me,
“But is meditation the ceasing of thought? Can’t we think any longer?” “Never!” I tell them. You think, you don’t think, you go beyond thinking and not thinking. This is life. It’s good to be living at this time,
a time of great transformations. Some years ago
we discovered that in Auschwitz, those who were burned
and killed in the gas chambers weren’t only Jews, but also Jesuits, gays, anyone with a physical disability. And we had put this aside. From time to time some thought
emerges in this direction, and it’s important that we don’t
allow these things to happen. And every time there is
any demonstration, however small, of discrimination and prejudice, we need to speak up. But our manifestation
is always nonviolent. Our manifestation is the path of building a culture of peace,
justice and healing. This is done with compassion and wisdom. Buddhism rests on two foundations which are the foundations
and my arms and legs: wisdom and compassion. To see clearly the reality as it is,
to be able to act appropriately and feel tenderness,
infinite tenderness, to all beings, even to those who seem so evil and who are victims
of a cruel and violent society. Each person who transforms himself
is an atom of the transformation of life. May we, therefore,
as Mahatma Gandhi once said, be the change we want
to see in this world. You’re responsible for it! Thank you very much. (Applause)

71 thoughts on “Zen e os relacionamento: Monja Coen at TEDxVilaMadaSalon

  1. Uma brasileira que entendeu o Budismo como ninguém! 
    Eu a conheci!

  2. Que sejamos a transformação que queremos ver no mundo 🙏🏻

  3. Mesmo ela falando de forma tão diferente do Karnal, os dois parecem falar a mesma coisa.

  4. eu gosto dos ensinamentos budista mas eu admiro muito a cultura indiana milenar que tem muito pra ensinar para gente

  5. Lindaaaa & iluminada !!!!
    Anjo de Luz em nosso Planeta Azul !!
    Vou conseguir ser equilibrada. . .


  6. Muito Obrigada!
    vídeo extraordinariamente impressionante, Sábias e belas palavras… Vou levar pro resto da vida. muitas pessoas precisam assistir a este vídeo…

  7. Que paz que essa mulher transmite… Que semblante de tranquilidade e equilíbrio. Muito obrigada pela reflexão!!

  8. "Faça o bem, fale o bem, pense o bem.
    Perceba que cada ser que encontramos é um ser iluminado,disfarçado a nos mostrar o Caminho.
    Alguns nos mostram como não devemos ser.
    Outros como devemos ser."
    Monja Coen

  9. Que maravilha ..dividir tantos ensinamentos conosco !! Namastê !

  10. Palavras sábias parabéns monja vc é maravilhosa sou nova no canal estou gostando muito 😘😘

  11. "Sejamos pois, a transformação que queremos ver no mundo". Essa frase define muito bem o que é um pensamento pró ativo. O resto é só preguiça intelectual e moral.

  12. Lauro disse muito bem: tudo fica claro no modo como a monja Coen se exprime!

  13. Minha vida é estda o Budismo,, e cada minuto cada hora fico encantado

  14. Guarde dentro de si a vida do outro e não a sua morte! Sempre vejo seus vídeos, e gosto muito!! Faz bem d+, grata!😘🌹🙏

  15. Arraso monja, como sempre nos enchendo de sabedoria, a colocação de suas palavras são precisas. Namaste!

  16. Quanta paz e tranquilidade ela transmite! Eu poderia ficar ouvindo-a o dia inteiro. 😍

  17. Que maravilhosaaa. Cheguei a essas conclusões com a psicologia. A Monja concluiu isso com o budismo. Dois caminhos, o mesmo destinho. A Monja explica de um jeito encantador.

  18. Na dor da alma, encontrei a Monja, tá difícil, mais estou aqui.

  19. depois de assistir a tantos videos da monja ela consegue me arrancar lagrimas e sorrisos como eh bom conviver com suas palavras nesta epoca de tanta intolerancia vida longa Monja Coen vc eh muito necessaria o trabalho por uma cultura de paz esta so comecando

  20. Leia a Bíblia sagrada, viva os ensinamentos de Jesus Cristo e terás uma vida transformada e serás cheio do Espírito Santo. Jesus Cristo, o mestre dos mestres 🙌

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